STAYING EMOTIONALLY INTIMATE 🫀

how can you build and strengthen your emotional intimacy with your partner? it’s a whole lot easier said than done, and it takes time, courage and communication to form such an intimacy between 2 people. such things should never be rushed, so be sure not to force it okay!

🤝🏻 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁 & 𝘃𝘂𝗹𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆

a) take a step out of your comfort zone - open up a tiny window your have build within your castle, and slowly let someone (trustworthy enough) into it. the trust works both ways, and this other person would feel it too

*you may build this trust by “stretching your zone” i.e. by sharing something a little personal, but not too overwhelming, and if the person reciprocates, you know you’re able to connect with a deeper level of understanding

b) create a safe space between both of you, with no judgements involved - start off by NOT rushing this process. it takes time and it differs for every individual, before you can be comfortable with another person

c) with time and more familiarity with each other, the guarded walls between you both will start to become thinner, and the trust wall slowly forms stronger

d) form the habit of expressing thanks or appreciation to the other person for letting their guard down infront of you. it’s not easy, not with just any one, to share feelings, so show some gratitude as this person has now started to place his/her trust in you

🗣️ 𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗻 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 (𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘀𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗰𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀)

a) work on being an engaged listener to one another - not hear (one ear in, one ear out) but actually listen to what those needs are and try to address them together. just by turning up, listening and supporting are already signs of being there which helps tighten the emotional bond

b) try to tackle problems using baby steps - figure out little by little, what is it that you’re upset, angry, fear or worry about. using such probes may help the other to open up more

c) dedicate some time in a week to have regular check-ins, ideally face to face, if not then video call, (similar to dealing with those who have AAS) to ensure one another’s doing alright, to talk about feelings without any distractions

of course, practising acts of 𝙥𝙝𝙮𝙨𝙞𝙘𝙖𝙡 𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙖𝙘𝙮 does play a role in it too because you would feel connected enough to a certain extent before getting physically close. so hopefully, this post helps to deepen your relationship and takes it to the next level of intimacy! would love to hear if you have other methods x

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