Marrying the wrong man @ 18 (I)

It was 16 years ago when I met the guy.

We knew each other from Friendster, mutual friend and got together after a short while.

Throughout the 1st year everything was fine. Until 1 CNY, I chance upon his blogspot and realise he has been two-timing me with someone who is older than him where he met in MapleStory.

I asked him, but all he did was denying and saying it has been over and they are no longer in contact. I’m in doubt but I choose to forgive him but the forgiveness did not bring me any happiness in this relationship bc I should know a leopard will never change its spots.

After being together for almost 3 years, we got married bc I was pregnant. It was really a mistake to get married just bc I am pregnant. He was alright, I thought he would become a better person but no, I was wrong.

Do you believe sometime dream seems to predict what happens, or maybe subconsciously I already know he is doing it but just denying it.

Because one night, I randomly dream that he had an affair with even though there isn’t really a sign of him having one but one day after my work, I saw his friend. Randomly, he just ask me “do you know where is your Husband?” I say, he is with his friend/colleague (can’t remember the detail).

His friend says he is rushing for work & gave me his contact so we can continue to conversation? Honestly stunned, but I did call him and he told me everything.

My ex Husband is with his girlfriend at that point of time and how did his friend know? Three of them are Secondary School friends and he was the one that brought the girl back to their social group and got them back in contact. FYI, this girl was my exHusband’s ex-girlfriend during school day.

After knowing, I ask him to give me the contact of the mistress.

After I was home and he is home, when he went to shower, I ask for his phone to do something. I key the contact number into his phone, there isn’t anyone save under this contact. BUT! When I key a the first 7 digit, someone name keeps coming up , then I realise he change the last digit to another digit.

Just when he done showering, I ask him to come over and I needed to call someone together with him. I call the number, the other end says, “Hello baobei” and I hang up the call.

I asked him who is that, he deny and gave tons of explanation. I am so angry, I am so upset! I want to head back to my parent’s place to cool down and sort things out but I wasn’t allow! He locks me in the room, took away my phone and guess what? His parents and younger brother was home knowing what was going on, but no one came to help me.

I was in the room crying because I was helpless. I don’t know what to do. A lot going through my mind. The next day, he just took it like as if nothing happens and I pull him to sit down and talk about it, we came to an agreement that I would forgive and gives him another chance while he will cut off the relationship with this woman.

Few weeks later, I came home and cry out loud in front of my mum. I let it out so badly because it was suffocating as I knew he was still with the mistress.

Ongoing marriage with no trust, and non stop doubting is torturing. On very one day, I was at work while he was not. He stayed home coz I put tracker on his phone, I have a very STRONG feeling that she is at his place.

I text my mum about it, bc I can’t do anything, I’m still working. After few hours, my mum called me “C… I got something to tell you but you don’t be too upset ok?” My heart drops. “She is at his house, in the room with him”.

(To be continue in the next post…)

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