Healing From Heart Break 💔

I recently shared my nightmare breakup story (if you missed it, go read it… it is a DOOZY), so naturally I want to share the tips that helped me heal from the immense heartache it caused me.

After my relationship was fully closed, which took about 2 months from initiating the breakup, I was in a deep depression. I felt unworthy, unloveable, and like a failure. I was humiliated and weakened by this experience. This lasted for about a year.

The biggest mistake I made in trying to heal was rebounding. I was so used to being in a long term relationship that I sought healing in other men. Sadly, since I was in the Greek system, the men around me were not interested in deep connection… So I was disappointed countlessly. I wish I had committed to a season of discovering myself, deepening my spirituality, and focusing on my health instead. So if you are going through a breakup, I recommend avoiding the rebound and waiting until you are healed from the experience to allow someone else into your life.

What ultimately helped me heal was taking a break from college, traveling the world, and doing 6 months of philanthropic work across Hawaii and the Philippines. This gave me perspective, a new purpose in life, and hope for my future. My faith and spirituality became stronger than ever which was so healing.

If you are going through heartache, find something bigger than yourself to pour into. Focus on loving others, helping others, and doing something that makes you feel purposeful.

It took me 2 ½ years of being single, but I did find love again and it is SO much better this time around. Taking a season of singleness (after my many mistakes of avoiding singleness) helped me prepare for my relationship with Taylor because I was able to refine myself as a person. I was able to work on my communication, discover my passions, and become a better version of myself.

Don’t be afraid of being alone. It won’t last forever. Instead, use this season of heartbreak and loneliness to become your best version of yourself.

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