👁 What is Unhealed Childhood Trauma?

Another not common topic, that I was hoping I can create awareness of.

Unhealed childhood trauma refers to adverse experiences or events that occurred during a person’s childhood and continue to have a lasting impact on their emotional, psychological, and social well-being into adulthood.

When childhood trauma remains unhealed, it can affect various aspects of a person’s life.

💡Here are some of the possible effects: 💡

1️⃣ People Pleasing:

• People pleasing refers to a behavioral pattern in which individuals go to great lengths to seek approval, acceptance, and validation from others. They often prioritize meeting others’ needs and expectations over their own, sacrificing their well-being and boundaries in the process.

2️⃣ Living on High Alert:

• Living on high alert can lead to emotional distress, including feelings of anxiety, fear, irritability, and a sense of being overwhelmed. It can also contribute to difficulties with concentration, focus, and decision-making. The constant state of readiness can strain relationships as it may be challenging to fully engage and connect with others. Living on high alert can lead to irritability, withdrawal, or difficulty trusting others, making it harder to establish and maintain healthy relationships.

3️⃣ Fear of Abandonment:

• Fear of abandonment can make it challenging for individuals to trust others fully. They may be suspicious of others’ motives, doubt their loyalty, or anticipate rejection, which can create barriers to forming close and intimate relationships. Is also often linked to feelings of inadequacy or unworthiness. They may become overly dependent on others, seeking constant reassurance and validation, or they may push people away out of fear of getting hurt.

4️⃣ Tolerates Abusive Behavior:

• Tolerating abusive behavior refers to enduring or accepting harmful actions, whether physical, emotional, or psychological, from another person. It involves allowing abusive behavior to persist without taking appropriate action to protect oneself or seek help. They may have been manipulated or gaslighted into believing the abuse is their fault or that they are unworthy of respect and care.

5️⃣ Attracts Narcissist Partner:

• People who are empathetic, caring, compassionate, low self-esteem, or insecure may be more susceptible to the manipulative tactics employed by narcissists. Narcissists are often drawn to individuals who can provide them with the attention, admiration, and validation they seek. Unresolved trauma or a lack of healthy relationship role models can contribute to patterns that perpetuate abusive dynamics.

6️⃣ Difficulties in Setting Boundaries:

• The fear of conflict or being rejected can prevent individuals from setting boundaries. They may worry that asserting their needs or saying no will result in negative consequences, such as damaging relationships or facing disapproval from others. Some individuals may struggle with setting boundaries because they are not fully aware of their own needs, values, or limits. Without a clear understanding of what is acceptable to them, they may struggle to communicate their boundaries effectively.

💡Furthermore, unaddressed trauma from childhood can influence an individual’s worldview and coping mechanisms. It may lead to maladaptive behaviors like substance abuse, self-harm, or disordered eating as a way to cope with overwhelming emotions.

It’s important to remember that healing from childhood trauma is a personal journey, and each individual’s experience and progress may vary.

Always remember, you are not alone.