Growing Up with Emotionally Unavailable Parents 💔

Hellooo beautifuls! In this post i will be unpacking a lot of childhood memories and if you feel uncomfortable, feel free to save this post and read another day ❤️ your growth is a personal journey ✨

Growing up my parents gave me a home, food and an education. I am forever grateful for that and I continue to provide whoever I can in small ways like buying dinner for them ❤️

What does emotionally unavailable mean? 🤔

it means people who aren’t comfortable in sharing their innermost feelings and are unwilling or not capable of managing emotional aspects of a relationship 💔

My parents having grown up being on survival mode have never really learned to talk about EMOTIONS and were really focused on SURVIVING. Bringing food to the table 🥘

Here’s what I learned growing up with emotionally unavailable parents

1️⃣ They were doing the best they could

I used to blame my parents for not hearing my honest thoughts out. Whenever I cry, they would say I’m over sensitive and would scold me for crying.

But a few hours later they would give me fruits or food to eat. 🥹🥹🥹

I learned that it’s not their fault they were never taught to voice out their feelings. And I recognise they do it their own special way ❤️

2️⃣ It takes time 🕰️

Sometimes you can’t force a heart to heart conversation immediately. If it’s difficult to open up to your parents, it’s okay.

I do get jealous of my friends who are able to have a heart to heart convo with their parents. But I know I could never. And I am learning to take it one step at a time.

3️⃣ It’s a never ending process of having to be introspective and unlearning that you are responsible for their emotions.

YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR EMOTIONS ! I had to learn this. Whenever my parents got angry over anything , I felt responsible even if they were angry at my relatives :(

therapy honestly helped me with this aspect!

It would be honour to be your listening ear if you grew up with emotionally unavailable parents ❤️ I am here for you ✨

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