sh!t my exes said and did ✨

First and foremost, I curated this list for the ‘lols’ and as a reminder, not a rage bait, and it’s a compilation across different r/s, long and short term with boys, so here’s some virtual 🍪 and 🍵

Goes from worse to worst during my clowned hard days 🤡 For preface, nobody’s perfect and being a crazy people-pleaser was my biggest downfall. My saddest -ve side so far is I’d get emotionally detached and cold when things aren’t going well…

But anyway, I think (and hope) they’ve matured much more and are happy at where they are now~

/plays “eMOtiOnAL dAmAge” remix/

• “My dad say your nose, a bit big ah...” 👁️👃👁️

• “You’re lucky your nose and lips match.” 👃🫦

• “…actually you look pretty when you cry” after an argument 🥹

• Kept bringing up how big bewbs are his thing 🙃

• Calling my friends and I ‘lame’ because we wanted to enjoy ladies night at a club without table reservation 😳

• “Can you remove your tattoo cos my mom don’t like girls with tattoos” 🤨

• Shouted at me during his birthday party in front of all his friends while semi-drunk because I told him to stop drinking (and I didn’t wanna deal with his emotional mess) 🤷🏻‍♀️

• Lovebombed by my ideal type and says he isn’t ready for a r/s a few weeks later via text 😳 (this happened twice)

• “If our future kids turns out ugly, it’s your fault.” 🫢

• Goes to thai disco to ‘make friends’ - Switched his pfp to just himself on LINE, denies spending excessively that one night and wanted to brush it off as a small issue 🤔

• “If you leave me, I’m just gonna go off being a fkboi.” 😓

• “If I knew your best friend first, I would’ve went for her.” 🥱

• Threw a huge tantrum, locked me out of his room, ignored my excessive cries turned hyperventilation and told me to drop the act just because I agreed to help a msian male colleague who is fairly new to sg to get some hair dye since I was gonna get some too 🤦🏻‍♀️

• Asked him for help to hold my dress down because the wind was too strong while overseas and the response was “you forgot your safety shorts, why should your problem be my problem?” 🫠

• Slapped my head just because we knocked our heads together accidentally while reaching down to pat a cat 🥲 Bonus: happened in front of his mom and she ignored it all when I said aloud “ow!!! why’d you hit my head?!”

• Woke him up from his nap as I was crying in major pain (it was a cyst rupture) to which I pleaded him to call an ambulance or bring me to a hospital and he was irritated af along with “really need to go hosp meh?” 🚨

• Marriage was not his end goal and he can’t stand the idea of moving out because he will miss his mom 😣

• Threw a bitch fit when I had to switch plans within the day to prioritise my grandparents that wanted to spend time with me ☹️

• A pathological liar with BPD + DID about having a caucasian half-sister, his real age, memory loss, hid his existing gf, kept saying he has money stashed away somewhere (actually in debt), his apartment left by his birth mom was invaded by his father (who he claimed he never knew) with his step-mom and ‘younger‘ bro but family photos shown otherwise, possessed by demon and more, major hehehe hahaha 👺 delulu douchebag

• Prioritised a carousell deal on the same day I got the message when my mom was about to pass 🥺

• This is a kicker - insisted on breaking up during my mom’s funeral because I didn’t give much attention to him and he ignored my relatives when asked nicely if he wanted supper. Sis here was already zombiefied from catering to those who were paying their last respects 😶‍🌫️  I was being so real when I asked “you sure you wanna do this to me when my mom is lying downstairs?!” and I heard the firmest ‘Yes’ ever.

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These are core memories for sure and there were times I think back on how it could’ve been avoided if I tried harder. It used to be ‘try understanding him’ and now it’s ‘try to make him understand from my pov’ 😮‍💨

Tbf, it stemmed from how we were raised and influenced as we do take on certain traits of our parents and pass it on, on top of our prev r/s experience, the lack of masculine/feminine balance is a struggle. I’ve always put on my masculine front more often than my feminine side and the results are often chaotic. I’m not in a r/s to be a mother to someone else’s son. I can nurture your growth, but how do I go about it when this is how I’m being treated?

Run when your instincts say so, otherwise, take it as a lesson learnt 🫶🏻