Stop asking me to have more kids bc I'm "young".

Recently , I've been increasingly irritated at the remarks of neighbours . Every time they see me handling both my boys , they will say, "You should give birth to a girl.", "You should try for a girl." etc .

So I'm really tired and wish I could throw an essay of reasons at them on why NOT .

But . At the end of the day , "no" is a complete sentence .

First of all , no one can predict or choose their child's gender . Healthy is most important . It's a blessing to be pregnant and carry a baby to full term , healthily .

Of course , we would love a little girl , but that doesn't mean if I'm pregnant with a boy again , then I should abort or put up for adoption , right ?

Secondly, I'm already exhausted enough from taking care of my boys primarily . I do not need or want a new addition anytime soon . Hence , my decision to get an IUCD at 6 weeks postpartum with my 2nd .

Third , finances . Having 1 more kid means more diapers , doctor's appointments , hospital fees , preschool , etc .

Unless you're paying for me ? Shut it .

Fourth , space . Our current living space is already small enough with 2 children , let alone add another.

Fifth , caregiving . I already said I'm exhausted handling 2 toddlers that are so close in age . I'm not tiring myself further when I should be focusing on being better for my kids now . I also can not function when I'm tired . I need sleep , which is already little enough with 2 .

Nobody else will care for our children better than us , parents , ourselves . So unless you're going to step up to my standards of caregiving , shut up .

Sixth , YOUNG DOESN'T MEAN NEED TO BE A SOW . It's the 21st century , 2024 . Nobody has dozens of kids anymore , and no one really tries till they get a specific gender .

I am young , yes . Which means I have things I wna do , wna achieve , WHILE I'm young .

Seventh , fertility issues are not written on us . Although my husband and I do not have such issues , it is a sensitive topic . Someone could have just had a miscarriage , or been trying to conceive .

So , really . Stop . Probing . I will have kids when I want to , and at my pace . For now , I'm contented with my boys as they are .