how to have a hard convo w your friend

FRIENDSHIP FIGHTS ARE AWKWARD... AND OFTEN, NEVER HAPPEN....

I think MANY people struggle with being honest in friendships. I used to be the kind of person who would just get hurt or upset by a friend and never bring it up.

Slowly, this caused riffs in my friendships. It made it hard for me to be as close as I wanted to with my friends because I was too uncomfortable with telling them that they hurt my feelings!

VS in a relationship... man I’m always QUICK to communicate if something’s up. But for friendships, it just felt like I would try and bury it until we slowly drifted or moved on from it over time.

HERE’S HOW TO HAVE A HARD CONVO WITH A FRIEND:

1.Really think about what you want to say & what you want out of the convo:

Was there a particular instance that you want to talk about? Why did it affect the way it did? What do you want out of the convo? What do you want for your friendship?

2. Find some time together alone.

Make sure you are 1x1 and not doing an activity so you can focus on the convo.

3. Bring the convo up in a nonthreatening manner.

Tell them how much you do care about maintaining your relationship - that’s why this is important to address.

4. Ask them how they felt about the situation and your friendship.

A lot of the time, if you’re feeling distant in your friendship, your friend is too!! Give them space to express their feelings too.

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