dating horrors | my close call w/ a sex offender 😵‍💫

I cant believe 🫵🏻 i went on a date with one of those SUS uni dorm men with their voyeurism & other transgressions 👹👹📈

4-5 years ago, i met this guy on bumble❗️ DISCLAIMER ❗️ he seemed perfectly normal in the initial stages (as with the case of many CEREAL 🥣 KILLERS)

i rmb he caught my attention bc when we matched he yapped 🗣️🗣️ OMG YESSSS I was hoping we’d match!! me & my friends were just saying, 🌈 u’re so cute🥰 . 🗣️🗣️ 🤢

ig what he said made me feel curious towards him bc it seemed like he was genuinely enthu abt getting to know me??? 😩👎🏻

HAHAH i was so delulullu ANW we texted for like a week or two NOTHING from our convos on text was telling of him being sus (other than the fact that he power lifts 🤔).

🪬THE DATE🦹‍♂️

One day he asks me if I wanna meet up. i said ok, he said he can only do lunch bc he had cheer practice in the afternoon & asked if it’s OK to meet at his sch which was @NUS. I was residing in NTU then.

FIRST RED FLAG🚩

things were fine, until i mentioned i came over from NTU and he was like “oh i thought u were from SIM?” which made me confused cuz he shouldve known? Like through text i was sharing abt my life in ntu & stuff everyday leh.

But ok didnt think much of it. He was q courteous & said thank u for cmg all the way here, let me pay for our lunch,,,

Then I was ready to say byebye 👋🏻 cuz before we met he said he had to be at cheer right and by the time we finished lunch it was almost the time that he was supposed to leave. Then he says “ah actually it’s okay, it’s no rush at all. I got some beer in my room, do u wanna go over & chill?” I was NOT down to get freaky🖖🏻🔞👁️🛑 & also y wld we be day drinking??🤔

((now tht i think abt it, the cheer practice was all for the plot 🫨prob a good excuse to give in advance in case he wanted to escape the date later on🏃🏻🏃🏻 so smart! 🫡👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻))

I said nah idw. Then HE said hmm then let’s go grab some coffee around campus. & it redeemed himself a bit in my eyes cuz then i was like oh ok he didnt just want to get in my pants. 🐸

we sat down for coffee ☕️ & the convo got odd all of a sudden. he randomly brought up the topic of SEX & ABSTINENCE & how he used to believe in abstinence being raised as a christian and all but no longer did. but he reaffirmed that sex shld be saved for someone important.

MOMENTS later, he said smth q softly which i thought sounded like “do u wanna be my gf?” so i was like pardon? 👩🏻‍💻👓 And he repeated his question n i was like huh. we just met??

he looked sad but he took the rejection well, i brushed it off as a QUIRK, we talked abit more, it wasn’t that awk (we actl sat there n talked for q a while) and he walked me back to the mrt. He asked for a hug before we parted ways and we were all like seeya again.

Then when i got back i got a text from him asking me “actually what are you looking for?”

But actl !!!!! he alr asked me this once when we first matched and we were both aligned that we were looking for a LT serious rs. THINKING that he asked me this again bc i rejected him (i was so thoughtful hehe☺️🤡), i told him I just wanted to pace things out.

then W T F sudd HE SAYS “actl i was just looking for smth casual” 💆🏻‍♀️💆🏻‍♀️ like ok that’s fine but u cldve just been honest abt it from the start??? Literally what’s the point of lying abt ur intentions & wasting everyone’s time.

🚙🚙🚙i thought he was suspicious asf & dubious then i just ghosted and we nvr talked again. & that was the last time i saw him.

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OK finally to the main part of the story cuz ure prob wondering by now why my caption labelled him as a sex offender (this is not pofma!):

LATER ON i SAW THIS MAN ON the news.

then i found out he got convicted of secretly filming intimate acts with women he met on Tinder. THAT SRSLY GAVE ME THE CHILLS. IT WAS SO SURREAL TO SEE THE SAME FACE BEING PLASTERED ONLINE & being identified as THIS CRIMINAL VOYEUR MAN.

In the article the victim also shared her acct of what happened. They met up for the first time, had seggs, & on the very same day, he implied he wanted smth more w her, WANTED A GF and if she didnt wanna date him he will NVR see her again. He also asked her to move in with him before they even met up irl and to her he felt “obsessive”. THATS KINDA BASICALLY the same sht he pulled on me (the asking to be gf on first date thing) 🤯🤯

&& i also read that he was getting psychologically assessed after the conviction🙃

MORAL OF THE STORY. trust ur instincts. STAY SAFE. BEWARE OF ATTRACTION THAT TURNS TO APPREHENSION. ⚠️☢️⛔️‼️

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