Bridesmaidzilla Incident 03: Hen's Party Absence

we all suspected that ❤️‍🔥 pre-planned her absence from my hen's party.

I admit, our prejudice against ❤️‍🔥 definitely contributed to this suspicion, but it was really shady.

1. ❤️‍🔥 die die wanna meet me on many occasions, albeit unsuccessfully, to pass me the gift before my hen's party despite the girls saying everyone can pass their "gifts to the bride" aka me during the hen's party.

2. At 1am of my hen's party day, ❤️‍🔥 messaged 🧚‍♀️ and 😽 [FYI 😽 refers to the close friend who couldn't attend my wedding due to Chinese superstitious reason] via their group chat, telling them that her husband kana COVID, and she has to bring him go see doctor hence she cannot make it for my hen's party. [PS: I know wth is Mr Anime Guy but my friends don't? So what's the point of saying so much? It's like 此地無銀三百兩 kind of extra information.]

If you just look at the message ❤️‍🔥 sent to 🧚‍♀️ and 😽 and the one she @ me in another group chat, they were exactly the same - She just copied and pasted the ones she sent to the ladies as one message to @ me.

AND, if she's polite and decent enough, she should message me first individually before anything else. [Again, I know some may say I'm too demanding and that ❤️‍🔥 was probably very worried about her husband hence didn't do this or that. Wait for it and read through, you'll know why I thought so negatively about everything at the end of this post. Anyway ❤️‍🔥'd always said COVID is a small illness like flu and cough.]

❤️‍🔥 didn't DM me anyway, and I was totally clueless until 🧚🏻‍♀️ messaged me asking about it. To be honest, I wasn't expecting this to happen. But when it happened, let's just say I'm not surprised because we did joked about her backing out last minute. LOL.

If you'd notice, for a person who has countless typo errors in every sentence ❤️‍🔥 sends over, her "bad news" message didn't had any typo error at all.

Not that I'm trying to think of ❤️‍🔥 in this bad light, but she's the kind of person who will lie about her mother getting cancer or her dog dying whatsoever just have it her way. If anyone tells me she's lying that her husband got COVID, I'm gonna believe that.

😽 told me she felt that it was very rude of her to just forward the same message she sent to them, instead of writing a personalised message addressing to me. Like not sincere at all. I totally agree.

But I guessed that she drafted this message in her Notes while planning her absence. And when it's time for her to act, she simply copy and paste it into the group chats. The lack of typo errors and grammatical errors makes this guess of mine very reliable because ALL messages from her will definitely have typo errors.

I'm not surprised if she lied about her husband getting COVID because she is a person who will say,"My mother got cancer and I need to do this" to get what she wants.

She is also the kind of person who will lie to not be there for a friend.

I've seen her tricks all these years. I know her too well. Maybe to a point where I'm too biased against her.

[In fact there was once she wanted to dabao Dazzling Cafe's waffle ice cream and the cafe didn't allow due to food safety reasons, she came up with,"Actually I wanna dabao for my mum (or MIL, I can only recall it's one of them) who is terminally ill with cancer and I don't know how long more can she live so I really want her to try this delicious waffle ice cream. Can you do that for me?" 😮‍💨 I was with her, and I felt very embarrassed. ❤️‍🔥 was so proud of herself after she got what she wanted which was to dabao this waffle ice cream for 👤. This really happened many times for herself to get what she wants.]

3. 🧚🏻‍♀️ sends us reminders to send her an image which we'd like to use for tufting, but ❤️‍🔥 just keeps on delaying the submission. All she was concerned about was me doing what image. 😂

Speaking of this tufting, I don't think ❤️‍🔥 is interested in it and she couldn't dissuade 😽 and 🧚‍♀️ to do something else because 😽 and 🧚‍♀️ insisted tufting was what I wanted (which was true). Previously when they were deciding what to do for my hen's party, 🧚🏻‍♀️ and 😽 tasked ❤️‍🔥 to try to find out if I really want tufting.

I replied to her,"I think it's quite interesting like something new and not something we've done before." I mean I suggested tufting to the girls in the first place so I'd love to try it with my girlfriends because I don't think my boyfriend will do it with me. 😂

❤️‍🔥 then told me,"It's alot of physical work leh", asked me "Use the gun and all sia, not tired ah?" Then tell me,"If do small one then not very nice." Then suggested that candle making she think is more okay.

It's just the whole vibe of "you wanna do this ah? But it's very tiring leh. Do something else lah, you cannot one." It makes me feel like she doesn't want to do it. I know 😽 told her to inform me that tufting is a tiring thing to do, but definitely not in this manner.

I just want everyone to be enjoying although it is going to be my event all planned for me - But I really want everyone to be happy during the event too, so I told her candle making is just as fine!

So anyway ❤️‍🔥 told 🧚🏻‍♀️ that she wants to tuft a photo of her dog, which is already "12 years old and has not much time left, maybe next year go liao sigh" so she wants to tuft an image of her dog.

Well, not saying that she cannot tuft using a real life photo of the dog, but as a first timer doing tufting, a simple image is better. 🧚🏻‍♀️ and the studio owner were very nice, they provide pictures of people tufting a real life photo to show how much work it is as compared to tufting a cartoon dog to show ❤️‍🔥. and suggested that she provides a cartoon drawing of her dog instead.

I understand that she wants to create a memory of her beloved dog but really must do it within her means. Tufting is tough. LOL. Somemore ❤️‍🔥 isn't very artistic inclined! For sure, she will be frustrated midway and I don't wanna be pacifying her there and then.

But anyway, another record added - This time round, dog dying.

Everything goes to show that as long as ❤️‍🔥 doesn't get what she wants, she will try to find excuses to justify why people should let her get what she wants. Be it death or sickness of anyone - I want what I want. 😮‍💨

[I'd also found out from 🧚‍♀️ and 😽 how difficult it was to plan the hen's party with ❤️‍🔥 constantly trying to take over the event and emphasizing that she is my BFF, but when she was asked what I like to eat or do - She either couldn't answer or she gave answers that made 🧚‍♀️ and 😽 raise eyebrows thinking,"No, 👰🏻‍♀️ doesn't like this..." 😽 couldn't stand ❤️‍🔥 so she seldom reply to ❤️‍🔥, instead she would ping 🧚‍♀️ privately to discuss the details and it was mainly 🧚‍♀️ shooting ❤️‍🔥's ideas down, maybe that's why ❤️‍🔥 disliked 🧚‍♀️ too.]

Anyway I took the initiative to message ❤️‍🔥 to ask her how is her husband at the end of the day when I reached home because I wanted to see how far she can lie - Yup I'm convinced she lied. All she told me was he tio COVID and she never. Still, she didn't apologise to me personally for not making to my hen's party.

I asked her if her husband got the latest variant - She didn't reply to the variant question but told me 👤 "lost sense of taste". To this point, there is no concrete evidence of her lying, but it's just my gut feeling. ❤️‍🔥 would have information-vomit on me if it was true because that's her personality. But she didn't.

I wanted so much to private message her husband to ask him,"Hey you kana COVID ah? Are you okay?!" But I feel that it is inappropriate to private text someone else's husband to show concern.

😮‍💨 I mean it's good that ❤️‍🔥 didn't join us because she will be so hard to please and so troublesome to handle. She will ruin all the fun because she needs so much attention. But I'd really appreciate better effort, at least in coming up with a lie.

If I had maligned her, I'm not even sorry about this. This is what happens when a person cried wolf too many times. [Remember the lie she said to her ex-BFFs when she didn't wanna attend their meetup for the ex-BFF'S wedding discussion?]

Throughout the day, I could see that ❤️‍🔥 was diligently looking at my IG stories. But too bad for her, none of my posts were about the activities. I shaded her a bit with 2 posts, if she has guilty conscious, she would know.

I then saw her Facebook status post at night.

when ❤️‍🔥 replied me after I asked her about her husband, she asked me if I saw her Facebook post, and told me it is about another friend of hers.

If it really was about another friend, wouldn't one wonder,"Just how many friends does ❤️‍🔥 have issues with?" If everyone has problems with you, then you're the problem already.

If it's about me, yes I agree. we reap what we sow. We cannot have the cake and eat it.

🫠 BAD NEWS: 😽 STILL CANNOT BE MY BRIDESMAID OR ATTEND MY WEDDING TO UNOFFICIALLY HELP BECAUSE HER IN LAWS VERY PARTICULAR. (WEDDING DATES FOR BOTH OF US WERE LESS THAN 3 MONTHS APART. 😭

🫠 BAD NEWS: MY ANOTHER GOOD FRIEND OF 16 YEARS CANNOT ATTEND MY WEDDING AND THEREFORE CANNOT BE MY BRIDESMAID AS SHE IS A SIA AIR STEWARDESS AND SHE COULDN'T CHANGE ROSTER. 😭

🎉 GOOD NEWS: I HAVE A PREMONITION THAT ❤️‍🔥 WILL NOT ATTEND MY WEDDING SO I DECIDED TO THICK SKIN ABIT AND ASKED MY ANOTHER GOOD FRIEND OF 15 YEARS TO BE MY 3RD BRIDESMAID!!! AND SHE AGREEED. 🥳🥳 So if ❤️‍🔥 wants out from all the bridesmaid duties that she cannot tank or if I want her out because I cannot stand her anymore, it can happen.

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