3 things my exes taught me

👑 Put yourself first

Being the person I am I put others before me. Even at the expense of my own happiness. When I get into a relationship, I make sure to show them tons of love and affection. However, as relationships progressed & I started seeing their true colors, I saw countless times they got my hopes up. Countless times they choose their friends over me .. other girls over me .. it was “F your feelings” & “you’re not going anywhere” it was the consistent gaslighting and manipulation.. & then they said “you’re not a disney princess, this isn’t a fairy tale” all because I wanted to be treated nicely, all because I wanted gifts,flowers, a card.. so I learned to start putting my needs first and emotionally separated myself from the toxicity.

👑 Believe Actions Not Words

I’ve had people come into my life and made empty promises. I didn’t realize at the time that’s what they were. Whenever someone said “Oh I’m going to do this for you” and then don’t I’d get so disappointed.. and then it was a consistent pattern until I got fed up. My exes use to travel and go see a whole different girl .. travel and go hang with his friends .. & I begged him & the only time I got to see him is when I made the effort to see them. Now anything anyone says to me just don’t register in my brain until I see them do it then I’m shocked that they actually did it 😂🤷🏽‍♀️ Can you blame me? It sucks being disappointed and let down ..

👑 If you listen close enough they’ll tell on themselves

Anytime any of my exes told me stories of their “friends” I’d try to give them advice not knowing that I was giving them advice on their situation until everything unraveled and then 2+2 is in fact 4 and everything starts to make sense from the way their mood changed to the affection they’d show every now and then..

As I grew up and now being in my 20s I’ve learned quite a lot and one thing I do have to admit is that even as a lover girl, I’ve turned a lot colder than I use to be. It sucks that I have to be this way but it’s a cold world.

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