He met my parents & I met his

Was it too quick? Maybe.

We’ve known each other for only 3 months and have been a couple for 1 week into our relationship before he met my parents, 2 weeks after I met his.

It is rather quick I must say on top of being in a relationship for the first time for the both of us. Normally, things would go slower, even more time would be taken to meet each others parents (or at least for others I think). I align with the mindset that everyone’s relationship is different and there is no ideal relationship and timeline. We follow our hearts and know when we feel it is right, given that both parties in the relationship have the same sentiments and thoughts about the pace that they are taking. I resonate with a statement that I came across on someone’s post on lemon8 I can’t rmb whr I seen it and the exact words but it goes something like this, “If one person is facing a problem in the relationship, it is a problem for both of the individuals in it.” Safe to say we have yet to have any issues so we are sailing smoothly~

The day Genius asked me to become his girlfriend (read [We kissed… for the first time] for more deets!) he was already ready to meet my parents. I imagined that it would be too sudden for my parents to take first thing in the morning. Too sudden in knowing that their daughter has a boyfriend for the first time without having known anything about him and that said boyfriend appearing all of a sudden without any prior warning.

Looking back our pace is probably faster than the average couple but I’m confident to say that it was not impulsive for myself or him. We got together during our 5th date, 3 months since we started talking to each other for the first time after moving to tele from CMB. I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way though. I know myself that I would be constantly pondering over the thought of if he likes me or not if we did not get together as quickly as we did.

I mentioned a couple of times before that I have an anxious-attachment style, and my mind is relentless in overthinking or over exaggerating a situation to be worse off in my head. Making it hard for me to fall asleep at times when I am in a negative mental state and being in constant anxiety which reflects onto my physical health. With Genius I never had to feel that way, he always assured me through his words and actions. Occasionally I go through phases of overthinking, once before we were a couple I sent him a long text about if he were to ever lose interest in me to tell it to me straightaway. “If you ever don’t feel the same way whether it is now, tomorrow, or next week I hope you would tell me you lost interest. Instead of others who have chosen to do otherwise.” was what I mentioned in a part of my text and I had also stated that I did not wish to stick around aimlessly this time. Unlike others Genius responded to me truthfully, respectfully, not invalidating or disregarding my feelings mentioning that he felt it was still early and he wanted us to have more time to get to know his feelings of us being together. Back then, we only knew each other for two months. Even I knew it was too early to ask a question of getting together but anxiety got to me. I highly encourage anxious-attachment people to be honest and communicate your feelings with your partner because although you may think that you are coming of weird or awkward, it’s fine. The person for you would acknowledge your worries, tries to understand, and do their best in making sure that your relationship progresses stably if they also feel that you are the one for them.

In between this post and my last of in my relationship with Genius [We kissed… for the first time], we been out a lottt more like 5 dates or more~ I think soon I won’t be able to rmb the number of times we went out as I might start losing track. I try to record it down to remember! Cause like I said before I want to rmb as much as I can of all the times we spent together.

During this span of time, Genius met my parents for the first time outside before we headed for our date for the rest of the day. I met his family at his house, as well as his uni grp friends for a few times. I feel very loved and grateful that Genius involves me with the people around him, I learn a lot from being around him :).

The first time Genius met my parents, they got along well. Genius has similar lifestyle traits alike my dad, which is working out and mindful eating. My mom…, not so much as I expected but they can talk hahah. Both of my parents are fond of him for all I can say 😆. The first time I met Genius’ parents I was nervous as I was visiting his home for the first time too. I brought some Japanese snacks there which I felt went well with the tea that they had at their house. His parents were easygoing and sweet, though I was a litttle intimidated by his mom at first for small reasons (possibly overthinking on my part) but after having met her for 2 to 3 times I can tell she’s a really nice person and a caring mother to Genius.

I liked seeing how he interacts with others around him, I am able to see how he treats me differently as compared to others. Not in a way like “ahh I’m his favourite person so he has to treat me the best!” kinda way but more of the sides that he wouldn’t show others in front of me, and the sides that I won’t see of him when he is in front of others. Naturally around his friends (alike myself too) Genius is more easily excitable, more casual, and free spirited. When around just me, Genius is more relaxed, calm, sometimes dazed hahah🤭🫶🏻☺️.

Amongst our recent outings I’ve studied at his hse (along with his brother haha), went running with him although I was out of shape since I haven’t been running for a vry long time, visited places with him like the Chinese and Japanese gardens, the airport, and Sentosa being the most recent date!

It took me quite awhile to create this post especially with this uni sem of mine being one of the busier ones unlike my prev sem. So that’s why updating lemon8 has been really slow :( I have been enjoying my time with Genius tho hehe~

Tmr is a vry special day, I’m growing older boo hoo hahaha 🤣 Last year, I wished that I could have celebrated my birthday with my special person because it was a significant age~ Well though I did not celebrate it with my special person, I met him while still being at that significant age that I was hoping to meet him.

This year I’m celebrating my birthday for the first time with Genius. 💗 I’m so unbelievably excited! As a person whose top love language is quality time, being with him is already a present in itself.

I was so sure at the start of the year that this year wld be worst year ever… because of the 4 in 2024🫣 but it turns out to be the best ever!

I can’t wait to spend my very first birthday with Genius!❤️🎂