Dating Timeline

According to the timeline I met each person, here lists the most to least recent dates that I have been on!

I might be adding new posts to the list in the future regarding past dating experiences (there are only two more left!~) which I have yet to create content for, as well as new dating experiences to come! Hopefully those new experiences wld only be with Genius💡!

2020

☆ My first (dating app) date

☆ Biz majors on a date (upcoming)

☆ Dinner date with a dentist

2021

☆ I was played by my situationship

2024

☆ He was not the one for me :(

☆ A date between a bro and sis (upcoming)

☆ Dating or career advising session???

♡ I am interested in him… ❤️

♡ Holding hands for the first time 💞

♡ Thing I like about him & what he taught me 💖

Enjoy reading! Hopefully my experiences would not just be fun and interesting but something that girls who are new to the dating scene (esp dating apps) might find useful, in knowing how dates would go about. Alike for myself when I first starting going for dates, I had zero idea what to anticipate + rarely having any close male friends or relatives. I didn’t even know IPPT even existed until talking to guys. (Or you can either say that I live under a rock🗿)

Ohhh and despite how many dates I’ve been on I’ve never been in a relationship before HAHAH so am I that worthy of providing advice to begin with?🤣 Although I personally feel that I’m not good at giving advice, it could be something you can take away and learn for yourself!

I love posting my experiences here on lemon8 as the community here is really kind, understanding and heartwarming! (esp from the comments I’ve received!) I don’t really share my dating experiences with my family nor do I do so with some of my close friends as many of them are single independent women who are actually not interested in dating :( When I do share it with these friends they find it hard to relate, making it even harder to explain. Sharing my thoughts and feelings in this community provides an outlet for me to express my inner feelings! I tend to be a person who would hold all my feelings in and break down and cry when I can’t take it anymore🥹.

Now, I’ll share with you my main takeaway from dating that I finally found the right words for. It’s that feeling that many people may have felt too while searching for love. “It’s hard to find someone you like, and it’s even harder to find someone you like who’ll like you back.” Therefore, in my dating journey I am thankful for anyone who had liked me, and the reason why I think feelings are something that should be treated preciously. Well… unless you are facing a weirdo, psychopath, pervert, narcissist, feel free to think otherwise~

I’m gonna go on a tangent but when I was rejected from my crushes and in the moment I would be like ‘I hope you stay single for the rest of your life!’😛, I ultimately wish them to be happy in the end. Even though I was not the person for them, I’m sure they could find happiness with someone else, and make their person happy as well.

Dating is nvr easy, esp in the context of dating apps you’ll never know when the person you just met had an interest in you one day and no interest in the other. Basically they are keeping their options open… which I wld suggest for some ppl to not waste their time (subjective to context!).

So here’s tips;

• First and foremost get to know if you are on the same page in the kind of rs you are looking for. E.g. just friends, casual dating, committed short or long term dating. Otherwise you might just end up with a bad situationship like I did before. :/

• Don’t play mind games. Just that. The person who really likes you wouldn’t, and you shouldn’t too! It disrupts your ability to communicate clearly.

• Not rushing for the wrong one, waiting for the right one. (I saw this phrase in a comment on a lemon8 post! I can’t rmb which post and who wrote it but if you recognise yourself feel free to let me know!) It’ll save you from heartbreak, wasted emotions, time, and money.

• If you are looking for a long term committed rs like I am, drop that trashy guy who keeps giving one word answers, does not give you clear answers to your questions (basically excuses😤) e.g. you wanting to meet but him blowing you off

• The person who is interested in you will rmb things abt you, not every single detail but when he does rmb these things, you’ll know because you’ll be surprised and touched that he did. This means he is paying attention when you speak and is genuinely curious about getting to know you.

I know for some people it is hard to identify red flags if you have never experienced relationships before. All the more it is hard to follow advice that people give as you have no idea how to apply it and certain things to look out for. Sometimes in life you learn only after having experienced it once or twice. Therefore, I say just go out and experience dating not just to know about other ppl more but to get to know yourself better too! Regardless, do take precaution. Be sure to protect yourself and look out for all the good and bad signs spiritually, physically or mentally.

For those searching for love, I wish you all the best! I’ve been on my official searching journey on dating apps for 2 yrs, yet nvr been in a rs. Before that, I was also interested in getting into a rs but it seems like fate was telling me that the people, place, and time were all not right. Right now I have someone I am interested in as you can see from the title of the posts above with hearts!!! 🥴

Update! I will not be posting abt past dates anymore as I will be focusing on new posts that I will be creating only abt my Genius~ 💞