What FOA Looks Like w/ Avoidant Attachment Stye

Fear of abandonment is a type of anxiety that you may experience when faced with the idea of losing someone you care about.⁣

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Avoidant behavior, in this scenario, shows creating distance from a partner while withdrawing from a situation that feels threatening.⁣

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3 shadow sides of being in this state are shutting down, disassociating, and ultimately having unhealthy coping mechanisms. ⚡️⁣

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To integrate this shadow you must first understand your FOA shadow is triggered NOT because of the act itself, but due to it how you are going to FEEL if you are abandoned.⁣

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You are actually trying to escape from a painful feeling that abandonment will cause (cue avoidant behavior). ⁣

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⬆️ This relates to an early abandonment trauma.⁣

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• What is it you’re trying to avoid? (Unworthy, unwanted, flawed, etc.)⁣

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Your challenge is to recognize your interpretation of these feelings are NOT facts - they are merely your perception of events.⁣

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These are just the beginning steps. Awareness is your greatest gift, but if you’re looking for further guidance I offer 1:1, 60-minute shadow work calls. In this call you will discover:⁣⁣

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🔎 How your shadow is blocking you from manifesting⁣⁣

🧠 The role of your subconscious & unhealthy patterns⁣⁣

🛠 Empowering tools to become the best version of yourself⁣⁣

🕊 Steps to liberate your mind from unconscious shadows⁣⁣

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Book your day/ time right away with the link in my bio.⁣⁣

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