Female friendship boundaries for my bf 🙋🏻‍♀️

How does boundaries in a relationship look like for an attached male person who has female friends?

⚠️ Please take this list with a pinch of salt! The boundaries should be agreed upon between you and your partner. Not everything is applicable to your relationship. This is what I am personally comfortable with 😄✌🏻

1. No physical touch with friend

2. Respect your girlfriend

3. No secrets

4. You can always do a double date, bring your girlfriend along to meet the friend, meet in groups with a clique. For example, I brought another mutual guy friend to meet this guy friend who wanted to meet up 1-1 alone with me

5. If you find someone physically attractive, better to distance yourself

6. When hanging out with the friend alone, always update your gf. Check your phone often.

7. Don't do anything you wouldn't dare to tell your girlfriend

8. Think with your BRAIN

9. A female friend being nice to you doesn't mean she's interested in you

10. No late night texting her

11. It's okay if it's a long-time friend, someone you knew before you got together with me, or someone who's mature; knows how to handle a platonic friendship with the opposite gender

12. Distance if the female friend starts to "flirt" — to me this could look like sending 1927382 pictures, texting all day, typing excitedly in capital letters

13. Linking to the above point, understand how does flirting look like. Ask other females or Google

14. Avoid meeting up in settings that could appear romantic, such as going to a cafe or high-class restaurant together. Kopitiam or genki sushi would be less suspicious

15. Have an accountability partner to keep you in check, such as a trusted older friend who's in a healthy, long-term relationship

16. Don't speak for your female friend. Don't make decisions for the female friend, "I thought you wouldn't like this so I didn't ..."

17. Don't assume you have a deeper connection with the female friend than you actually do

18. Don't say suspicious stuff to the friend like "your boyfriend must be so lucky", "you will be such a good girlfriend", "you deserve all the happiness". So are you saying you can bring her happiness instead???

19. ⁠Don't ask your friend to buy presents on your behalf for your gf

20. ⁠If you want to know your gf better, don't ask your female friend, ask your gf yourself

21. ⁠Better to ask her things in a group chat than PM, like "how's your knee" can be asked in front of all friends (if you're not that close to the friend or that friend is new)

Guys can ask yourself the following questions:

- Do I feel any type of romantic feelings?

- Would my partner be okay with this?

- Does it look like we are a couple if we do this?

- Do I feel jealous when they date or talk to people of the opposite gender?

- Deep down, are you hoping that they will have feelings for you one day?

* Take note these are more explicitly stated as some people may not even know what boundaries look like *

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