What’s your attachment style?!

There’s a lot happening in my relationship & it’s teaching me more than I think I want to know & accept about myself.

Once I learned about attachment styles I quickly realized that what I thought was my problem (alcohol) wasn’t. My problem is my anxious attachment style.

It’s difficult because my partner has a secure/avoidant attachment style & on the day to day basis is so sooo amazing. He’s reassuring and communicative and supportive and understanding… but when my insecurities or jealousy arises he becomes avoidant and this also only happened the past year or 2.

Before that he would deal with my issues with love and kindness, but he’s tired. He knows that these issues are not because of him & after 5/6 years of support, love & reassurance he is confused why I still feel doubt and fear regularly (but especially when I drink). Which I’m also confused about but so beyond ready to heal.

It might be too late to save this relationship but I want to become secure for myself. I can’t live with these fears anymore. My biggest issue is I always think people are in my life to use me or take advantage of me in some way. I think everyone is out to get me, hurt me, or embarrass me so I sabotage situations to do that to others first. and unfortunately my partner has been the punching bag for most of my issues & I hate that I’ve done that to him.

How do I heal? How do I let go on stuff that happened to me like 10 years ago? How do I mend these problems with my partner? Can I save this relationship or is it too late??

#attachmentstyle #attachmentissues