3 subtle 🚩 that your SO is not marriage-ready

Other than obvious ⛔️ signs like being a cheater or having violent tendencies, there are some subtle 🚩 to look out for when you’re in the dating phase—

1️⃣Overly-reliant on parents

There’s a very fine line between being filial vs being overly dependent on their parents. How do you differentiate then? Being a mummy/daddy boy/girl means that your SO listens to the parents on many things from what clothes to wear, what major to choose to what job to go for. While you may think that’s just your bae being easygoing,it will become a MAJOR problem after marriage because this means that your SO is incapable of making independent decisions. Your future in laws will also have a BIG say on both of your lives too as your SO will probably not speak up for you or take your side when conflict arises between you and your in laws. Unless you’re very comfortable with navigating conflicts between family members and relatives, it will be a lonely tussle between you and them without a supportive SO (because he/she is too afraid of setting boundaries with his/her family of origin)

2️⃣ Being financially irresponsible

Again, this seem innocuous at the start. Spend all their $ on luxury goods or entertainment? NP, it’s their $ anyway! Racking up credit card debts? No worries, they will sort it eventually. If your SO is someone who is super careless with their spending and have no idea where their salary go to every month, they will no doubt carry this habit with them. In other words,love itself is not enough to sustain a blissful marriage. A lot of loving couples break up due to financial difficulties as they did not discuss $ issues before getting married. If you and your SO have very differing views on how to manage your finances after marriage, think again.

3️⃣ A taker more than a giver

Some ppl complain that while both of them work full-time, it is always one person who is doing most of the household chores/ mental labour of managing day to day matters. Do take your time to carefully observe your dating partner when you’re over at his/her house—

📝What does your partner do at home during his/her free time? Gaming/watching netflix/doing housework/ prefers not to stay home?

📝Does your partner enjoy interacting with his/her family members at home? How does he/she behave or communicate when conflict arises in the family?

📝 Is he/she proactive towards chores in the house? Does he/she take the initiative to help out and problem-solve when it comes to his/her family?

His/her actions speaks louder than his/her words. So, how your bae behaves at home currently will give you a glimpse into what will happen in your future household.

📍 TLDR: Enter marriage with your eyes 👀 wide open & choose wisely!

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