sorry, but situationships aren’t WORTH IT 🙃💔

they always say - learn from your mistakes so HI let’s learn from my mistakes together HAHA. as someone who has been through it with SITUATIONSHIPS, i can tell you - i don’t think it’s worth it.

𝐒𝐢𝐠𝐧𝐬 𝐘𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐈𝐧 𝐀 𝐒𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩

⚠️ 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒇𝒆𝒆𝒍 𝒔𝒕𝒖𝒄𝒌

• you don’t hit milestones in the ‘relationship’ (e.g meeting their friends, doing new activities together)

⚠️ 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒐𝒏𝒍𝒚 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒓𝒕-𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒎 𝒐𝒓 𝒍𝒂𝒔𝒕 𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒖𝒕𝒆 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒔

• all you’re getting is last minute plans or ‘hey i’m bored let’s go do something’

• dating you is not their priority, don’t be their backup plan

⚠️ 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆’𝒔 𝒏𝒐 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒔𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒚

• i’m a firm believer in couples not having to hang out 247, but in a situationship, you can never expect when you’re going to see the person next

⚠️ 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒚 𝒂𝒍𝒘𝒂𝒚𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒆𝒙𝒄𝒖𝒔𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈

• ‘i’m very busy’, ‘i’m sorry i’m too tired’ are all excuses

• in a relationship, you would problem solve and find alternatives

• but in a situationship, there isn’t that urge

⚠️ 𝒂 𝒍𝒐𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒔𝒎𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒌 𝒊𝒔 𝒊𝒏𝒗𝒐𝒍𝒗𝒆𝒅

• you don’t get deep in conversations - like learning their insecurities, fears, etc.

• there’s no emotional closeness

⚠️ 𝒚𝒐𝒖’𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒍𝒘𝒂𝒚𝒔 𝒇𝒆𝒆𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒏𝒙𝒊𝒐𝒖𝒔

• i know this feeling all too well, and it really SUCKS

• you get nervous to ask where the ‘relationship’ is going because you’re afraid it’s going to go wrong - you should NEVER feel ashamed to ask where a relationship is going

𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐛𝐞 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡? 𝐋𝐞𝐭’𝐬 𝐰𝐞𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬!

𝑷𝑹𝑶𝑺

👍🏼 you can explore dating and learn to interact romantically

👍🏼 you have more freedom over your decisions and prioritise your life

👍🏼 convenient

𝑪𝑶𝑵𝑺

🥵 can get tiring and draining

• it’s hard for you to get on the same page about a lot of things because one or both parties don’t see the need to put that effort in

🥵 you put yourself in a very emotionally vulnerable position

• there will hence be no closure and it’s harder to move on

• it might even prevent you from meeting other amazing people with that headspace

🥵 ambiguity leads to frustration

• it’s just not genuine love or a real connection

• frfr, if they wanted to, they would

𝐀𝐋𝐓𝐄𝐑𝐍𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐕𝐄𝐒 𝐓𝐎 𝐒𝐈𝐓𝐔𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒𝐇𝐈𝐏𝐒

🩵 𝑫𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝑰𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚

• go out there and get to know as many people as you’d like but know what you want out of it

• whether it’s a relationship or just to learn more about yourself and others, knowing this helps guard your own feelings

🩵 𝑲𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒑𝒓𝒊𝒐𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒊𝒆𝒔

• know what you want and know what non-negotiables are

• there’s no point fighting for something if there’s something present that you know you can’t deal with in the long run

🩵 𝑫𝒐𝒏’𝒕 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒄𝒂𝒖𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒖𝒑 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒍𝒍𝒔

• the sweet words and fun ultimately isn’t worth the stress and anxiety that comes with a situationship

• don’t let the words they say speak for how much they care about you

𝐔𝐋𝐓𝐈𝐌𝐀𝐓𝐄𝐋𝐘-

• imo, there’s a difference between dating intentionally and putting yourself in a situationship - both allow you to grow, explore and learn.

• but in intentional dating, even if things might not work out, you are never left in a state of ambiguity

• to me, the cons of a situationship outweigh the pros, but maybe if you set your boundaries and timeline right, it could work - it’s just not for me

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