MY NIGHTMARE RELATIONSHIP 💔😣

I am currently in a very happy relationship, but I wanted to take the opportunity of this platform to finally share my painful experience of getting cheated on and why I stayed for 4 years. This is going to be a long post, legit is like some nightmare horror relationship story…..

I was 15 and he was 18 (yikes). Our relationship was a pretty healthy one where we rarely fought. He has a very loving family whom I love very much till this day. We were together for over a year, but one day he just suddenly grew cold. I later found out it was because he cheated on me with a girl we both knew, let’s call her cup. I was hearing stuffs here and there from his friends and decided to make a sneaky trip to his house. I CAUGHT HIM IN ACTION! I barged into his room while he was calling her. He frantically ended the call and literally fought with me (grabbing arms and all) to prevent me from looking through his phone. I confronted him about it, he got angry (?) and I remember telling him “it’s okay, I understand, but who do you choose”, his response was “idk I can’t make a choice, give me one week” lmao. I also texted cup saying, “I understand, it’s not your fault”. I went over to get my things the next day and he instigated intimacy, which I stupidly consented to as I was young and naive + I thought that doing so will make him love me again. After it happened, he asked me to leave immediately lol. I met him once more at night outside his place to take my remaining stuff, he had the audacity to ask me to stroke him at the park behind his place…. (it didn’t happen). Ultimately we broke up and he got together with cup.

6 months later, came a saga where I was terrorised by the both of them. Cup sent me screenshots of private conversations between him and I, asking to return everything he bought for me etc. I felt most attacked over the screenshots of private texts between him and I at my most vulnerable state, begging him to stay (lmao I was so stupid). To me it was so unnecessary since everything has already ended months ago and him cheating on me yet they were using such a vulnerable way to attack me. I retaliated by sending screenshots of him sending me texts, saying things like, “I miss you, it’s not the same, I was happier with you” hehe. It was a super big and unnecessary hooha haha. He then explained that cup took all the screenshots of private conversations on her own, both apologised and things died down (I don’t blame anyone, we were all young, just forgive and forget).

THEN a few months later, he texted me again, with the same sweet texts telling me he has broken up with cup. At this point, I honestly still have not given up, after all he was my first boyfriend and I enjoyed the validation I got from him that I couldn’t get from my family (things are better now). He came to my place and told my mom, “I’m sorry I didn’t cherish her, this time I will make things right”. During the relationship, he was still very sneaky and would always get angry when I try to pry more. I later found out that he was in the process of breaking up with cup while he was chasing me…. As expected, it was not long before he started his ridiculous actions again. I believe we were only back together for 2-3 months when he started to text cup again (seriously…. this man can’t find any other girls…) So likewise, cheated on me again with cup, left me to get together with her. OH! I also found out that he has been going around saying really rude things to his friends like, “she send me n*des when I don’t even want her anymore haha” “she will always come back when I say the word”. Seriously I want to know where this guy gets his audacity.

YOU GUESSED IT…. while he was with her, he would always try to get my attention by sending me a text then deleting it, waiting for me to approach and ask what’s up (?) and when he got my attention he would send me explicit messages and pictures. At this point I entertained him as I felt like, wow finally the ball is in my court, it’s finally my turn to make him feel like he is nothing and make him realised what he has lost, I wanted my ‘revenge’. This time it was mostly meals together, but when he sends me back, he’d pressure and pester me to pleasure him (IN HIS CAR IN PUBLIC?!). The ego of this man is sooo high that whatever I did made him feel like I was still interested in him. Whether it’s rejecting his advances or taking a long time to reply. He will go around sharing all the stories of him banging other girls to his friends and even saying things like im the most obedient one since he can have me when he wants and throws me after he’s bored + no matter what happens I’ll still want him (bruh). After suffering for 4-5 years, I finally see that he has never been sincere and there was no point trying to get ‘revenge’ (his ego is too high to notice), it was up to me to leave this toxic game. So I did. He clearly knew everything that he was doing and his intentions with me, after cheating on various occasions, he still had no remorse and continued stringing me along for his own selfish gains. How embarrassing.

To me, I believe that everything happens for a reason. It was just unfortunate that I was chosen as one of his victims, stuck in this toxic cycle. Back then I was in a very vulnerable position and therefore I got stringed along. Now I hope to share my story to help other girls overcome their own experiences. Girls, always trust your guts and love yourself first. If you sense something wrong, trust it. If the whole situation seems ridiculous, LEAVE. There’s no need for ‘revenge’ or to make them feel like they’ve lost a good catch. As cliche as it sounds, the best revenge is to be happy and live your life to the fullest without them!

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