🐣My Labor Experience + Tips🐣

I know everybody’s birth is different just the same as everyone’s pregnancy🩷Above is simply how mine went through the ups and downs. I didn’t really have any big feelings other than irritation, impatience, anxiety and overall stress, Physical & emotional. The main reason I had all of these negative feelings was due to fear of c-section, my body failing me, my baby not handling labor (bc her heart rate kept dropping) and just overall anxiety and fear in general.

Here are my tips for making sure you have a comfortable and anxiety-free delivery based off of what I’ve learned from this one:

🐣 Come in with a written birth plan - it is easier for the different shifts of nurses to know what you need and want and ur expectations for u and ur baby while within their care. You can keep it on a table in ur room and let the different nurses know that it is there instead of continuously repeating and explaining things to people.

🐣Be firm and assertive on what you need/want - I had very specific needs and wants for my baby and myself while within the hospital’s care. For example i wanted minimal traffic while pushing and i wanted to stay with my baby the whole entire time of me being there. The only way people would stay out of the room was if i continuously told them and they still made it difficult for me by overexplaining things i really didnt care about while i was in pain trying to bring my baby into the world. I also made it very clear that i didnt want to leave my baby AT ALL while in the hospital and they knew throughout my whole pregnancy and labor that my baby was very small, so when they told me that she would have to stay in another room than me just to keep warm i refused to hand her over to anybody, refused to recover and told them i would take the repercussions of it. Not long after that the head doctor came in, set some arrangements and made it possible for me and my baby to be in the same room while we recover and she gets her temp and body weight up. Stand firm on what you want. Its ur body, ur baby, ur new life. You deserve to be as comfortable as possible. And if they say they cant do something (that is very manageable and able to happen based off of your level of recovery) they usually just dont want to because its an inconvenience to them, not because u or ur baby’s health is in jeopardy.

🐣Have someone there to keep you calm and support you no matter what - goes without saying, we all need somebody and giving birth is stressful as fuck and not all of us have the ability to speak up for ourselves. So bring somebody who you know will fight for u and ur baby.

🐣Stay calm and patient - my biggest downfall has been and always will be my impatience (Im a sagittarius ♐️) my impatience is the reason i never get shit done, show up to shit too early or not at all, and why i have major anxiety with a lot of things. Especially when i have to depend on people. Trust God or the universe or whatever you believe in when things are out of your control and just try to stay calm. U got it. The world unfortunately needs slow people and processes in order to work accordingly in a lot of ways but all you can do is control ur emotions, stay calm and patient and remember that there is nothing that you can’t get through.

🐣Be nice - this one is hard for me especially when people aren’t following through with my needs and wants even though I communicated very clearly. But you are in their care and they are in control of u and ur baby’s well being. You can always sue if something goes wrong but try to be nice. U never know what ur nurses/doctors are going through and they are probably just as stressed as you. Im sure none of them wanna lose their job either so try your best to be kind to everyone.

🐣Listen - take their advice and other people who had kids advice. Obviously not with how to raise your baby but with tips during labor. They told me not to eat but i was STARVING and desperately needed (wanted) food. All i had was a couple of plain potato chips and next thing u know i was throwing up and couldnt stop gagging. Long story short, try to listen when it comes to that. But dont listen to people who say “dont take epidural/go natural” or “take epidural, u will need it” only u know what ur body can tolerate. I know i cant even handle period cramps so i NEEDED epidural

In general just stay calm, patient, be kind and listen. Things we should be practicing on the daily basis tbh. It will make labor so much easier and stress free for u and everyone else around u🩷

Lmk more tips just in case others need it or if I decide to get prego again😅

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