How To Forget That Mean Thing They Said. ✍️👩‍💻

Ever had something mean said to you that you just can’t seem to shake, no matter how long ago it happened? 🙄 Maybe it was a careless comment, a harsh criticism, or even an entire situation that just keeps replaying in your mind. It’s like it’s burned into your brain, haunting you when you least expect it. Trust me, you’re not alone in this—I’ve been there too! 🫂 Sometimes, no matter how much we tell ourselves we’ve moved on, that little memory holds onto us tight, and letting go feels impossible. But don’t worry, it’s not impossible at all. We can heal from it, and here’s how! 💖

1. Acknowledge it (Yes, REALLY face it)

First things first—stop pretending it didn’t hurt you. A lot of times, we try to act like something didn’t affect us, but it’s okay to feel hurt. Sit with the memory for a minute and give yourself permission to feel it. This doesn’t mean you’re giving power to that memory or person; it means you’re acknowledging it, and that’s the first step toward letting it go. 🧘‍♀️

2. Change the story in your mind

It’s time to flip the script! 🌈 That memory keeps popping up because our brain is replaying it like a broken record, often making it worse than it actually was. Try reframing the situation. Was that comment really about you, or was it a reflection of the other person’s insecurities? Most mean-spirited things say more about the person who said them than they do about you. Remind yourself: You are enough, you are worthy, and that person’s words don’t define you. 🫶

3. Forgive, but not for them—for YOU

Here’s the tricky part: forgiveness. Not for the person who hurt you, but for your own peace of mind. Carrying anger or hurt is like carrying extra baggage on a trip—it slows you down and makes everything harder. Letting go of that resentment is freeing. You don’t have to tell the person you’ve forgiven them, but in your heart, release that negativity. 🌻 Your happiness is way more important than holding onto someone else’s mistake.

4. Distract and Replace

When that memory sneaks up on you (because let’s be real, it still will sometimes), distract yourself with something positive or uplifting. 🌸 Think about something exciting happening in your life right now, a goal you’re working toward, or even the kind words other people have said about you. It’s easy to let one negative comment take up too much space in your brain, but there are so many more beautiful things about you that deserve attention! Focus on that. 💫

5. Lean on your people

Talk it out with someone you trust—someone who lifts you up and helps you feel like the best version of yourself. 💕 Sometimes we need a little reminder that we’re loved, valued, and that one person’s opinion doesn’t hold all the weight. This is where your support system, friends, and community come in handy. Never underestimate the power of venting and feeling understood. 🫶 You know I’m all about building a close, positive, and supportive community, and if you’re reading this, you’re already part of it! Let’s be there for each other.

6. Be kind to yourself (like, REALLY kind)

In moments like these, when negative memories feel impossible to escape, the most important thing is to practice self-compassion. 💕 Remind yourself that it’s okay to feel hurt, and it’s okay to take time to move on from it. Don’t be hard on yourself for remembering something painful—it’s part of being human. Just know that you’re growing and learning with every step you take, and you will come out stronger.

At the end of the day, don’t let something mean, said by someone who doesn’t know the real you, occupy space in your mind. 💖 You are way too amazing for that. Whether you identify as a woman, man, trans, or nonbinary, every single one of us deserves respect and kindness, and no one gets to steal that from you.

And remember, THIS community supports gender equality and LGBTQIA+ positivity. 🏳️‍🌈 We are all in this together!

You got this! ✨ Let go of that negativity, step into your power, and shine the way you were meant to. 🌟 And if you ever need support, you know where to find me. Let’s grow together, be kind to one another, and spread that positivity everywhere we go.

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