Tie the tubes !!

As much as I love children, I can still help children and not have my own. Having biological children at 23, or at 30, would be a very irresponsible thing for me to do to a child. When you have a child, it’s not about you anymore. Everything you do will affect your child. It’s not just about me being ill, or having hereditary issues.

If I have a hard time taking care of myself half the time, I would never want to place a child in that situation. If financial issues happened to me, and medical debt is a possibility, I would never want to place a child in that position.

Right now at this time, I am celibate. I live in a state where there is an abortion ban. Whether you have opinions on the ban, or not, that isn’t the point of this post. I don’t want to put a child in the position of feeling like a burden, much less possibly dying and leaving a child without a mother. I know I wouldn’t be a good mother. I’ve always known this. And it’s not for my lack of love for children, or how I treat children. It’s simply because I am never going to be in a position to take care of a child fully.

I want to be truly vulnerable and post this. This is not shaming anyone. I need you to know that. This is not shaming anyone whatsoever. This is just my choice, and has always been some thing I’ve been wanting to do since I was very young. I’ve always known, and have even been told by family, as well as doctors.

Sometimes if you love something , you have to let it go. And for me, that’s children. I can take care of and love the idea of children without having my own biologically. If one day, I am in the position to foster children, that’s absolutely what I would like to do. But I’ve known for my entire life that biological children will not be an option for me, and I am completely OK with that.

I’ve spoken with therapists about this many times. It’s just not a good idea and that’s OK, as well as that it’s my choice and my body. I will never judge anyone else’s choices. This is just mine !

I will update my journey as this goes on 🥰

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