HOW I GOT THROUGH MY 1/4 LIFE CRISIS 😭

if you’re in your mid-20s and facing a quarterlife crisis, let me preface this by saying YOU ARE NOT ALONE ‼️

i can’t believe that i’m 27 & still lost in life 🥲 even if i close my eyes and try to focus on myself, all i see is posts of people in the same life stage as me getting promoted and doing well in the career, getting their BTO keys, having babies etc, and yet here i am, seemingly stagnant 👎🏻

having been through so many mental breakdowns the past couple of weeks, i finally grounded myself so that i, too, can move somehow forward in life. though it might not be much now, all these baby steps definitely brought me to a much better state now ‼️

1. 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚 ⏰

this was something that was so hard for me to digest. back then, all i believed is everybody at my life stage already accomplished a stable relationship, good career, bright future etc, yet i cannot even decide the next step of my career despite being in the industry for over 2 years 😭 in fact, it seems i still keep getting myself stuck in life, in terms of friendships, relationships, when i’m supposed to have outgrown it and stabilised my life YEARS AGO.

it took me a while to understand & accept that time is relative to everyone, and there is no set “goals” that i must reach by a certain age. actually, it led me to set my own goals at my own timeline instead, which led me to feeling more fulfilled when i’m able to achieve it 💖

tip: u can also reward yourself with a gift or something intrinsic to motivate yourself to work towards your goals!

2. 𝙚𝙣𝙫𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙢𝙤𝙤𝙙𝙗𝙤𝙖𝙧𝙙

following up on the first point, i found creating my moodboard so helpful in curating my goals that i want to work towards! it made me so happy putting the pictures together, and i placed memories that made me happy & that i want to revisit in the board 😌 aft taking a second look at it, i KNEW that my goal is to travel and to see the world and in order to do that, i must work hard in my career so that i’m able to do what i love

tip: you can also create moodboard of places/ things you love and want to work towards, example your dream country, dream job, or dream life. then make your vision coke through by working hard towards it!! 💪

3. 𝙚𝙢𝙗𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙚 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚

at times, i feel stuck. and there will be a time where you feel this way too. for example, there are some friendships that just feel so draining and toxic to me that i just beat myself up over what i could have done better, how to act, how to please others etc. i let myself be used over and over again for others benefit, in the name of friendships. or there are times where i hear how much other friends i have, hate their jobs so much 🙅🏻‍♀️

in these situations, it might seem that there is nothing you can do & that it is out of your control. however, as cringe as it may sound, change is the only constant and the only way out is to change a variable.

hate your job? quit. hate how toxic your friendship is? tell your friend & if they don’t change, go. hate how others treat you? leave. if you can’t change a person, or if u can’t change THEIR actions, change the circumstances. there is no circumstance if you take yourself out from being the variable in the situation, isn’t it? 🫡

NOW, i’m not saying that i know how my life will roll out from here. but i do know that i’m going to take these baby steps to a more fulfilling life that only i will have by choosing to be my own main character instead of trying to be like the masses 🥳

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