kinda done with dating

helo ZeSties, u guys are like my girlies that I wanna tell all the tea to hahah

Updates on the last dood I mentioned in the

I think I'm falling post .

He ended things with me, cause he said I was expecting too much and he feels stressed about it.

BuT tell me are these too much.

💀Going out on outside dates more

💀Having more conversations and talking more.

💭Seeing each other 2 times a week

They are super important to me in building the solid foundations of a loving relationship.

I thought it was fking normal from my years of dating lol and esp with how the last few guys I went out with.... he was really just not doing much after the first month. (Maybe he lost interest)

He just wants to stay in and not talk. Like we don't even text much. I don't mind meeting only once a week if you meet my emotional and mental needs. But he's like so emotionally unavailable and has a low tolerance to conflicts? - To me its normal to have discussions because we are different people coming together, I was just telling him my needs and it seemed too much for him.

Honestly it just reminded me of my

emotionally unavailable ex.

They do have things in common tho:

Exes that made their life super comfortable and gave in to them not having to do anything for a relationship(the girls cheated in the end and I understood them completely LOL [cus its kinda neglectful, the way they act in a rs] even though I know its not right!), super good life in ns and parents that are living comfortably so they always have a back up plan. They both can barely self reflect and answer deep questions about life!

I could see how the rs would turn into what happened with my ex tho but the worst part is shit only happened 6 mths into me being with my ex and I only knew this guy for a month and he cannot take the bare minimum requests alr.

Its just irks me that I WROTE on my profile what I needed upfront (conversation and someone that would go on adventures with me,those 3 points above), and they still come and bother me when its not something that they like to do or improve on.

They just want someone to chill with at home(but all the time). Sure thats fine if you are in a 2 years rs but this is 1 month in lol. I still barely know u.

WhY do sg men act like this == I did read somewhere men are just trained growing up to do less for more lol and thats why they apply that to their relationships. But to me they just dk how to love someone, they love themselves the most.

ADDED sOme quotes at the back from @/case.kenny on IG.

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They just lack effort nowadays and its frustrating.

Also super important to have solid guy friends, THEY sHow u what a good guy would do, and they provide insights as to if this guy is a yes or a no. (Small things like ordering the food and drinks first, Listening to us talk abt stupid shit and letting us girls bully or tease for fun, ofc they do it back lah, but yea with my guy friends there was always initiative and they are super observant of their surroundings, we girls alw can just be stupid) [I have 2 mixed cliques]

Don't trust what men say, trust their actions and observe their consistency.

If my guy AND GIRL friends can treat me, bring me out, drive me around, GiVe in to my pickiness and have deep conversations with me wah... I wouldn't accept these bare minimum doods as my life long partner.

so girls don't stick around for a fake dream they sell you at the start okay, look at their actions 3 months in, its super telling.

🤡🤡

But this also fked up my ability to trust people and myself, like is my radar spoilt? It was so sudden and I feel like the only one giving and being delulu that there could be smth more.

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