Getting my Chinese family to accept my Malay bf✌️

My interracial relationship is my entire lemon8 personality alr hahaha

As a very typical Chinese household, it's not often that another race enters the family. My family aren't racist and they accept people for who they are, but to them it's just easier to date another Chinese.

I was really afraid of introducing my bf to my parents bc religion is a big thing at home and introducing a Muslim to them as my bf is a huge shock (or so I thought at that time). My dad was instantly accepting of my bf. He believes that this is my choice and as long as I 'know what I'm getting myself into' then it's okay, it's my life anyway.

My mom took some time to accept this new relationship. She kept telling me that I must be sure of this bf before agreeing to anything i.e. marriage or converting. She didn't say this about my ex who is Chinese so I was kinda pissed. She's also silent when I talk about my bf and doesn't really participate(?) in the conversation. Overall she just gave the impression that she doesn't like him which made me really mad. He didn't do anything wrong???

I sat down and chatted with my mom about it. She told me she's still in shock (it has been 2 years 🥲) and it's taking her awhile to accept the differences in culture and my new 'lifestyle'. I explained and assured her that I'm still the exact same person and I didn't and won't change just because I don't eat pork and prefer halal food now. I've always been a huge picky eater so this is just my new picky habit. I'm also not imposing my new religion on anybody and it's a personal journey.

I've also started including my bf in more outings with my parents. My mom is warming up to him more now and I can tell she is starting to see him as family yay ✌️✌️ she even read up on Malay wedding customs and asked me about them. She's learning and I really appreciate that.

One of my colleagues shared that his daughter's bf is also Malay and his wife was not accepting of him at all initially. But after seeing how the bf treats their daughter, he's now the fav son in law 😂 their daughter is currently studying overseas and hardly comes back but they still invite her bf to family get togethers in SG.That's super sweet of them and I really hope my parents reach that level of comfort with my bf one day.

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