Insights to some poly friendships 🤓

Let's talk about Poly Friendships, honestly ✌🏾

This is what I will tell my poly self or to people who want honest advice 😬

‼️Disclaimer: These are my tips and my experiences; everyone is different in poly, so you dont have to follow‼️

✨ For context, I am just an average poly student; I had my highs and lows !! My CGPA is 3.3-3.5 !! Initially, I wasn't interested in my diploma, but it grew on me ✨ !!

Let's talk about the inevitable: the messy friendships in poly ✌🏾

I had my fair share of different friendships throughout my three years.

Here are my honest and brutal tips 👀

✅ You do NOT want to be in that big clique that everyone wants to be in

⭐️ I am being super honest: most huge cliques hate each other or hate someone secretly. You do not want to be part of that drama🙂‍↕️. I have heard and seen too many stories about happy big cliques, but in reality, it is just a hate festival amongst them 🙄. Usually, everyone envies the big cliques, which is understandable, and you are NOT the only one who thinks like that 🥸. Trust me, the universe is doing you a huge favour when you are not in such big cliques. There are exceptions; count yourself lucky if you are in a genuine big clique ✨

✅ You can't be groupmates with all your friends

Oh boy, this is another harsh reality 😅. Only some of your friends can be your groupmates. Some of your friends are amazing but terrible groupmates, to the point that you sometimes question your friendships 🤦🏾‍♀️. Anyway, it's essential to realise that just because you are all friends doesn't mean you can work together on group projects ✌🏾. Friends and group mates dynamics are very different. There is nothing wrong with that; dont take it personally.

✅ Do not climb the social ladder; it is not worth it at all

Okay, I was a victim of this as well 🥹. I wanted to be in the popular group in year 1. I understand the feeling of wanting to be noticed by many people and feeling wanted and popular in some ways ☹️. As I said, your feelings are valid. However, it's not worth, to be honest, to suck it up to people. I understand that being popular will give you certain chances and opportunities at things, but let's be honest, put yourself out there, and you will get chances honestly 😬😬. It's not worth climbing and sucking it up for your mental health.

✅ There are pros and cons to having a small friend group

My friendships mainly were in small groups, and I noticed and realised some things after graduating. One thing about having a small group, personally, was that I felt limited at times 🙁. I wish I was more open and friendly so that I would have made more friends casually without being a BFF. I could learn more from various people and different things and have different experiences ⭐️. The pros were that it was slightly more peaceful, and I knew how they worked as friends and group mates !!

anyways, enjoy your poly life ❤️ Make it your own cool experience, don’t try to fit in

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