i moved out at 21?

hello zesties! 🍋

as the title reads, i moved out at 21.

honestly, it wasnt exactly by choice? if i were to choose, i’d definitely still be staying with my parents but thats not how things turned out, sadly 🥲

me and my mum were pretty close when i was growing up but as time passed, i realised our relationship wasnt as healthy as i have thought.

she was the type of mum that was supportive in things i’d do but would always want me to do things she’d prefer.

she didnt put me down but she would gaslight, guilt trip and manipulate me.

when i did something she didnt particularly like, she’d guilt trip me and being a people’s pleaser, i’d always follow along and do things that would make her happy.

this also resulted in me being unhappy indirectly but pushing it aside.

growing up, i had always been a mummys girl. my parents were divorced so i had moved in with my mum and we grew close naturally. everyone (all my friends and even my boyfriend) knew how close we were and how much my mum meant to me.

in the beginning of 2024, some things had happened that caused a very big falling out between us. our relationship took a sour turn and it became very toxic (VERY fast)

it broke my heart how things turned out but it occured to me that i couldnt stay any longer with how our relationship turned out.

the move was also a result of her kicking me out.

i would have moved out eventually but maybe at a later time when i was more stable, financially, emotionally and mentally. but since she kicked me out, it just happened earlier than what i planned (DONT WORRY, im doing much better now hehe 🥰)

we have a very strained relationship now and while i have plans on mending our relationship, i think we’ll be keeping our distance for the time being just to heal personally.

we both took a very big hit from what happened and how our relationship turned out but at the end of the day, she is my mum, and i still love and care for her with all my heart.

my biological dad is still in the picture (not in the actual pic) but he has supported me and provided me with lots while i was going through this period (which im so thankful for 😭🩷)

im still coping and healing with everything that’s happened but i have the support of many friends, many family and my ever so loving boyfriend (now fiancé hehe), so i know i’ll be fine with time 🫶🏻

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