healthy rs boundaries with opposite genders!!

ive seen alot of posts with rules my bf shd follow etc but here's my personal take my mom instilled in me since young:

if they have a cheating bone in them, they will cheat. tbvh i rather use my time caring ab my future career and self development, friends, honestly anything else than worrying if my bf is crossing boundaries. and if he has the heart to, even if he doesnt bc of some very strict gf rules, i wouldnt want him anyways. love is by choice, so idont need rules to keep him in check, he can do that himself.

1. if he's not mature enough to establish opposite gender boundaries by himself and needs you to do it, ...you want him???

2. if he chooses another girl over you even for a fleeting moment...why do you want him??

3. its easier to find another guy than to try and control someone, if ure good enough you will find someone who deserves you more. if u dont think ure good enough, you shouldnt be in a rs you should be working on improving yourself

4. if u dont trust your partner with taking care of themselves and need to set rules, either one of you definitely have some trauma and you shd resolve that instead bc if there isnt so much immense trust btwn you guys, how r u gna survive genuinely

anyways thats my logic and it sure makes hella sense to me <3 if my bf ever crosses a line that's an ick and i wouldnt want him anymore