How My Gf And I Are Going 3 Years Strong (wlw🏳️‍🌈)

My girlfriend and I have known each other over 3 years. And before I get into this, the most important thing through this slide that I didn’t put is my girlfriend and I are still friends!! We still talk and hang out like friends too! That’s so important in a relationship and I tell all my single friends or friends who are just starting a relationship! You have to have a friendship first!!

We Know Each Others Family: Hailey (my gf) and I have known each other awhile now and knew each others families as friends! We grew up in the same town 7 min away from each other and were in the same places multiple times and didn’t know it lol. Hailey lives with me and my mom and brother as she and her mom can sometimes have issues. Her mom and her still have a relationship and we constantly see each other for dinners and holidays! In my previous relationship our families HATED each other and it caused so much stress and toxicity. If you’re having in law problems and your spouse isn’t sticking up for u? baby leave them. they probably aren’t ready and you are and it’s not even worth it to go through that pain. Especially my wlw. Ik it’s so hard when families don’t always approve but you gotta choose you.

We Still Go Out: Hailey and I still go out to eat quite often. We honestly are trying to cut back because of money lol! We love spending time out and eating together. We both love football so sometimes we go out to grab a drink and eat and watch the game. We also love to get take out and eat and watch a movie a home too. It’s a private moment we both can have together!

We Raised Dakota Together: Dakota is my almost 1 year old (on Friday) service dog in training!! I started having seizures in January 2022 that have been uncontrollable since. In March 2023 I decided to adopt a puppy and train her to be a service dog. Hailey was in full support through the ENTIRE process. She was there for the meet and greet and drove us home her first day and every single day since. Dakota is very attached to me and definitely is my service dog in training but she ADORES Hailey and knows she’s her other mommy. It was really hard at first but it also showed how we may be in the future if we had our own family. We argued and were tired. It was a lot but it eventually brought us so much closer and we got into a routine that really helps us in our relationship that we would’ve never had if not for dakota. (pls don’t get a dog unless you are prepared and ready. a dog will not save ur relationship. dakota just helped mine :).)

Bad, Good, Easy, Hard Times: Hailey and I have been through a LOT together. I was in and out the hospital a majority of the past 2 years and that took a huge toll on our relationship. Hailey and I also got into a huge car accident that totaled her car last year and cause a lot of strain on her. We were also homeless for a little and raising a 13 week old puppy. Hailey was also there when I graduated high school and I was there when she got her brand new car or taking her out for dinner for getting employee of the month! Hailey also has had health issues and been in and out the hospital which wasn’t easy for us either but we celebrated each other everytime we’d be discharged. It’s never easy, but we’ve learned to adjust and work through things!

Go On Trips/Vacation: We don’t really do this a LOT especially since I got sick. But I think everytime we go on a trip/vacation we get a reset! We can always take a step back and not focus on everything at home. We leave our problems there every trip we take and enjoy our time together. It’s honestly so much better when we take that time and come back stronger to tackle the issues we left off.

Individual and Mutal Friends: This is so important!! One thing about our relationship is we aren’t very insecure and very trusting of each other. A lot of relationships have issues with friends because people are scared of infidelity. Hailey and I have mutual friends and individual friends. And not saying her individual friends aren’t my friends or vise versa but in a relationship you should be able to hang out with other people individually without each other always being there together! It’s good to have that independence!

With all that being said, thank you if you’re still with me reading all the way down here lol but we’ve had our ups and downs and healthy relationships are never easy. You struggle just like other couples. The only difference is how you react, respond, & recover from it. Apologies are important, empathy is important, trust is important, communication is important. I hope you all took something from this ☺️ This was a longer one to make lol 🫶🏽

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