How to Avoid the 3 Month Rule

What is the 3 month rule? Otherwise known as the honeymoon phase, a lot of people have been talking about the idea that, around 3 months into a relationship, the other person stops caring or giving the same energy as they did 3 months prior. The 3 month rule may seem like a difficult hurdle to overcome but, here are 3 tips that I utilized when my boyfriend and I “exited” the honeymoon stage in our relationship.

(1) Open up the Conversation

The 3 month rule is not a hard line that you cross. It’s not like you guys reach 3 months on the dot and immediately reach the end of your honeymoon phase. It’s more like something that kind of creeps up on you. Like maybe, all of a sudden, you notice that there isn’t that much effort being put into the relationship like there used to be. The point I’m trying to make is that, sometimes, we don’t even notice that something like this is a problem. As a result, maybe your partner doesn’t notice it yet either. They aren’t mind readers and won’t know unless you tell them, so open up the conversation and communicate what you need from them.

(2) Ask for Reassurance and Validation

If you’re feeling like things have fizzled out once you reached the dreaded 3 months, don’t be afraid to ask for reassurance and validation. You shouldn’t feel ashamed or embarrassed to ask for something so easy to give. If they give you any push back or it’s like pulling teeth to ask for something so simple, maybe they weren’t meant to be in the first place. You should be with someone who cares about you and the relationship and someone who does, will put in that extra effort you’re looking for.

(3) Spice Things Up

Don’t get comfortable in your relationship. I get it, after being with your partner and suddenly entering a stage of no longer being in this whirlwind romance, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comfortability. I say it’s a trap because it’s a double-edged sword. While it’s great to fall in love with someone that makes you comfortable, too much of anything can be a bad thing. Getting too comfortable may mean forgetting to do the little things that sparked romance in the first place. Whether it’s giving out compliments, flirting, going on designated date nights, etc., try and find new, inventive ways to keep the spark in your relationship alive. Also note, that it’s a two way street so both of you should be trying to maintain the spark in order for this to work.

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