Basketball & Marriage & me…😅

It’s so awesome to be on the sidelines cheering on your man! To watch him do what he’s been training & sacrificing for is sexy. There’s nothing like seeing “practice makes perfect” come to life and it’s a real honor to witness someone you love’s dreams come true. He gets to do this for a living and even when it’s tough, it’s a blessing and a major win to even lose on this pro-level.

HOWEVER…☝🏽I can’t ignore the fact that being married to an international pro-athlete means sacrifice. Granted, love is sacrifice. Yes. But packing up your entire life and leaving everything you know to live in a new country every year…😅…no joke.

Year 2 took me by surprise & it took months to recognize that I was not ok. Lol. I was missing life at home (real bad) but pushing it down under “being a supportive wife.” It wasn’t until my husband suggested putting me on a flight home that I realized I was tapped out. Quiet & shut in. He’s the most supportive & attentive husband and even though he appreciates all that I do for him here, he recognized that this life was getting to be a lot for me.

I’m not in Europe as an athlete with a schedule, a team or literal purpose to apply in moments of self-doubt & loneliness. Motivation to get up is not the same for me as it is for him. Make sense? I don’t have a 10am practice to knock me out of a bad mood.😂 I have to do it on my own everyday with new resources and sheer will power, every year.😅

I was recently talking to another wife who is currently on her 4th year and she said something that really stuck with me. She said something along the lines of “I have had to learn the reality of what and how much I can give to a season.” It sounds simple but it blew my mind because I had never thought about giving “some” and not ALL of me to each season.🤯…which has nothing to do with giving my ALL to this marriage. What she said suddenly shifted my perspective on my reality and gave me permission to 1. have a hard time & 2. figure out what to do about it. It’s given me the permission to advocate for what I need. Especially because it’s so easy to see and cater to the needs of my husband during a season.

Don’t get me wrong. I have a blast traveling! We’ve explored so much and this free time is the gift that keeps on giving. ☺️ I’m just learning that balance is necessary in the midst. I can be a wife & “Rhema” at the same time.

Next season, I’ll visit home more. I’ll be more realistic about what I can lend to a dream that I of course share, but don’t have to carry alone. It’s a continuous work in progress…and that’s ok!

This goes for you too sis… in whatever life you’re living. If you’re sacrificing anything…this applies to you.

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