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Love really strikes you when you least expect it

Love really strikes you when you least expect it

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I recently fell into the ‘dating’ rabbit hole on Lemon8, and all the dating posts sent me on a nostalgia ride. So, I’ve decided to share my own story as well, hahaha. It’s a very elaborate one, so pls read on if you want some dating story time 💕

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My wife and I first met via a dating app back in 2017. I recall going onto the app after a very nasty breakup in Oct 2016. Looking back, that was a really toxic relationship, so a breakup was inevitable, but it was still a heart-wrenching episode. I was depressed and found it very hard to move on, but with the new year (2017) approaching, I decided to stop moping and started to look ahead. That was when my friends recommended trying out the dating app Coffee Meets Bagel ☕️🥯

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My intention was not to look for another rebound or fling, so CMB was suitable (Tinder had become like a fling app by then). I just wanted to get out of my depressed bubble and distract myself by talking to new people. My friends had probably had enough of the Emo me too, hahaha. So, I tried, swiped, and even exchanged profiles with my friend in the app. My wife was actually one of the profiles that my friend shared with me, hahaha. I swiped right for her, and thankfully, she did too 👏🏼

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We started chatting, and for those who are familiar with CMB, the chat only stays open for 7 days. Our interactions were positive as we learned that we shared the same silly sense of humor, so I decided to leave her my number as the chat was closing. But she disappeared. I couldn’t reopen the chat because I had spent my beans on another chat where the girl ghosted me 😭 That was a waste.

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Funny enough, my wife also disappeared then. There was no response from her, and interestingly, I didn’t feel FOMO about it. Life continued normally, and about 4 days later, I received a text from an unknown number. My first instinct was, “Who is this? Scammer?” Only to later realize it was my wife! She did get my number and finally dropped me a text. I later learned that this was a technique to demonstrate a ‘lower’ level of interest so she didn’t seem too desperate 🤣 Do you all think the same, ladies?

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We started texting again, but she would stop replying for days, only to reply again when she realized she forgot to reply! Interestingly, I didn’t mind that and didn’t send any chaser text in the meantime. All I did was share stupid memes that I saw on social media (I only had her on Telegram). I literally just took a screenshot and sent it across, without any text. I’m not too sure why I did that because in the past, I probably would have followed up with a “how are things?” 🤔

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But it turned out to be a good thing because my wife said if I had sent chaser texts, she might have felt pressured, and it could have been a turn-off. So gentlemen,🚨 let nature take its course, don’t send too many texts 🚨

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This staggered texting continued for 2-3 more weeks, but things really picked up during our recess weeks. We were both in Year 4 at uni. I was going on a Bangkok trip with my friends, while she was heading to HK for a school trip. Amazingly, we were both at the same airport terminal at the same time. At that point, we had never met in person, so I kinda had to decide whether we should meet then. Did we meet??? drumroll 🥁🥁

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We didn’t. Hahaha. I remembered contemplating for a long time but found it too abrupt and short to meet then. She was also at Starbucks while my friends decided to go to McDonald’s, which were at two opposite ends. So, we didn’t meet physically, but because we were both overseas at the same time, we started texting a lot more regularly, sharing photos about the trip with each other. I guess distance really makes the heart fonder; we got a lot closer during that period ☺️

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We continued texting about deeper topics such as life, our childhood, our values & principles, etc. Over time, there was an increasing level of interest but also fear. I had just come off a bad breakup, and it had only been 3 months since. I was doing my best to discern whether this was a rebound or genuine affection. My wife also had the same thoughts because I told her about my story. I guess that’s why I didn’t think of asking her out for a date for another month of texting. All in all, we texted for 2 months without meeting in person, hahah. I know this is unconventional, but I really feel a delayed meetup helped a lot in getting to know the person without any physical influence ✅

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Our first date was at my uni (U-town) because she lived near there and I was there for a group project. My physical appearance at that point in time was horrid because I had a horrible haircut, and 2 huge pimples were growing on my face. I don’t know how I had the confidence to still meet her 🤣 I recall walking through the study area to find her. I couldn’t recognize her at first because she had eyelash extensions, but her table was the only one with one person, so I asked, and that’s how we met for the first time!

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The ‘study date’ went well as we spent time together from lunchtime to dinner. At then, we both knew we had good interests in each other, so the meetup was really a sense check to make sure we hit it off in person too. That was a success 😁 And oh, you know what’s the funny thing? I actually saw my ex-girlfriend at U-town that day, and she was with another guy 🙂‍↕️ I guess that was the Universe telling me it was time to fully move on, and I’m glad I did.

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We went on more dates in March, and at a certain point, I was quite sure that I truly liked this girl and would be even more depressed if I lost her. That’s how I decided to ask her to be my girlfriend. She naturally had her reservations as well, as she wanted to make sure she wasn’t a rebound. I think such deep conversations at the beginning really set a strong foundation for our communication in the relationship 🗣️

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Oh, my wife is actually 2 years younger than me, but we went to the same JC! My younger sister is also 2 years younger than me, and she went to the same JC! Draw the dots? My sister played a pivotal role in my wife’s decision-making. My wife was sharing about me with her JC clique, and one of them knew my sister, who had a great reputation in school. The exact words were, “She is a great person, I know her family is very close, I am very sure the brother is a great person too.” That’s how my wife got the final confirmation that I might really be a decent dude 🤣🤣 Thank you, my Meimei.

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We officially dated starting 1st Apr 2017, as I wanted to surprise her on April Fool’s. I mean, on a day where no one takes things seriously, I wanted to show that I took the relationship very seriously 😌😌 Hahah. It has been 7 years, but our tale always feels special whenever I share it. A lot has happened since then, but I am very thankful I swiped right on her profile 7 years ago ❤️

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Thanks for reading up to this point if you did!! Leave a comment for a personalized ‘thank you’ for your support, hahah. I welcome any curious questions too!!

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