& what they are

y’all might have read about why I ended my non-toxic, 5 year r/s. Well, I’m in a new #relationship now, and honestly, I’ve never been happier. 🥰 I found someone who really listens to my needs and actively works with me to address them.

Before I share about my relationship practices that my friends have commented are “too much”. I want to highlight that these work for me because, deep down, I’m #insecure AF (yup, they called me out 😅).

While writing this, I asked my boyfriend if he thought these practices were too much. He laughed and said, “I think they (my friends) are crazy!” 😆

So ya, here are the things that work for us:

💕 Discord Calls Every Day

When we’re not together, we jump on Discord. We usually start by debriefing each other about our day. Sometimes, I’ll tell him I’m too tired to talk, and he’s totally understanding. Even when we don’t talk, just having each other’s presence on the call feels really comforting.

💕 The “Melon Milk” Safe Word

Instead of saying, “We need to talk” (which can sound super serious and stressful), we came up with a safe word: melon milk—because I’m obsessed with it. 🧃 Now, whenever we need to discuss something, we just say, “Can we have a melon milk moment?” It’s also a time to share gratitude and check in with each other. This has honestly been a game-changer because we don’t let small issues build up into bigger ones.

💕 Sharing Our Locations

We share our locations all the time. It’s not about distrust; it’s about safety and feeling connected. Funny thing is, we barely check the app! But knowing we can if we need to makes us feel more secure.

💕 Couples Therapy Before Any Issues

We started couple’s therapy, not because of any big problems, but as a proactive step. To me, it shows that we’re committed to building a strong, healthy relationship before any serious issues arise. Preventative therapy just feels like laying down a solid foundation.

💕 Talking About Money

We talk about finances often. We’ve set aside savings for our future together and have already discussed how we’ll handle finances once we live together. These conversations help us stay aligned and make sure we’re on the same page when it comes to our goals.

If you’re thinking about adopting any of these practices, just remember—it’s super important to communicate with your partner and make sure it’s something you both agree on. 🥰

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