FOR GUYS: TALKING STAGE NOT-TO-DO‼️🚩😧

i've a fair amount of experience talking to guys (thru text), & these are some common things guys say/do when texting gals that MAY be icky. these do not speak for everyone & i am NOT a dating expert 💀 - these are my personal experiences, so pls don't @ me cos ik not every guy does the same!✨ not every gal feels the same as well, i.e. they may like the fact that you're needy/clingy, so if you've done these & wtv works, then good for u!⭐️

all these points are impt to be aware of esp in the early stage, the 𝙏𝘼𝙇𝙆𝙄𝙉𝙂 𝙎𝙏𝘼𝙂𝙀, so read on if u wna keep the conversation going w/ her! 🕺💃

1️⃣ 𝗕𝗘𝗜𝗡𝗚 𝗡𝗘𝗘𝗗𝗬/𝗖𝗟𝗜𝗡𝗚𝗬

starting off HOT 🔥🥵, being needy/clingy at such an early stage makes us feel... eeww brother... read a post by @Taya abt the same topic & i totally agree. a man who constantly seeks validation & reassurance can create emotional strain. we are not saying that yall shld conceal your emotions/feelings & keep it in, but don't expect your gal to always entertain your emo & cold shoulders, your tantrums or your whines, esp yall are only at the 𝙏𝘼𝙇𝙆𝙄𝙉𝙂 𝙎𝙏𝘼𝙂𝙀. don't expect us to text u everyday, or update constantly also...

💫 BUT‼️ we luvvvv to listen to your stories, so if you're feeling down, just rant‼️ spill the tea‼️🍵

2️⃣ 𝗜𝗡𝗦𝗘𝗖𝗨𝗥𝗜𝗧𝗜𝗘𝗦

saying things like "im medium ugly", "im in NS now so im ugly cos im bald" & anyth u dislike abt your own appearance basically shows you're not confident in yourself. uw your gal to send u tele bubbles everyday but u can't even show your full face to her then??? 😟 words of affirmation as your love language is 💯 VALID, but not by expressing your insecurities as if you're fishing for reassurance/validation/affirmation. im not saying guys can't have insecurities either, bcos gals have them too, BUT u can either start asking qns abt insecurities, & just simply & casually say it without having to fish for validation~🪄

💫 if udl the way u look/present yourself, improve on your personal grooming, hit the gym, learn new fashion styles‼️ knowing how to style yourself will give u a BIG BOOST 💥✨‼️ basically, BE IN TREND.⚡️🔥

3️⃣ 𝗧𝗔𝗟𝗞𝗜𝗡𝗚 𝗔𝗕𝗧 𝗬𝗢𝗨𝗥𝗦𝗘𝗟𝗙 𝗧𝗢𝗢 𝗠𝗨𝗖𝗛

imagine your gal wants to know everyth abt u, she asks u qns abt your life, so u yap & yap & yap but u didn't ask her any qns... WE LUV A YAPPER but hello... do u want to get to know her or not... cos if not she will just stop contacting & move on to the next guy... 🙃

💫 it is always impt to have social & emotional connection w/ her‼️ ask her qns, know her bttr, show that you're interested, keep the convo going, or else you're gna look like a narcissist 👹🥱‼️

⚠️ no social & emotional connection = you're boring 😴

4️⃣ "𝗔𝗡𝗬𝗧𝗛𝗜𝗡𝗚"

ik saying "anything" can mean that you're giving in & accommodating everyth & letting your gal to decide, but if you're a true man, do the planning‼️ to us, saying "anything" means you're either inexperienced in planning, or u just dw to do the work... but honestly it's not that hard...

💫 there's @Eatbook SG , there's @TheSmartLocal & so many other media channels & platforms for u to do research on. it's 2024... be savvy‼️

if you're doing these, it's either a first date won't happen, OR it's gna go down during the first date & then there's no more subsequent dates, but u won't know/feel it cos gals are good at hiding, & then until we eventually ghost u or say to cut contact. BUT heads up, kings‼️👑 one door closes, another opens. 🚪 she may not feel the same for u, but just always rmb to move on, cos rejection is perfectly okay & normal & fine‼️✨

🚹TO GUYS: do u agree? how's your experience like talking to gals? 💭

🚺TO GALS: do u agree? what are some other icks or additional points that cld've pointed out further? 📌

comment down below, wld luv to read all of them!👇💬

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