who says a long term r/s can’t be exciting?!

here are a few tips to keep the spark alive ✨

1. communicate openly and regularly

can’t stress the importance of this! do not be complacent and expect that your partner will understand your innermost thoughts despite being together for a long time. always ensure that you make time to talk to each other about your feelings, dreams and desires. it doesn’t hurt to be honest and open with each other about your needs and listen to each other without judgement! 🫂

2. plan date nights / dates in general

make date nights a thing. early in your relationship, you probably went on tons of dates so dont let that die down 👩🏻‍❤️‍💋‍👨🏻 i would suggest dedicating a date night at least twice a week and get outdoors! make an effort to plan date nights that incorporate each partner’s hobbies and interests as this can create a fun and unique experience that both partners can enjoy! 💗

3. try new things together (eg: travel tgt!!)

over time, even the strongest relationships can fall into a routine. trying new things together can help break that routine and keep things fresh and exciting! with shared experiences comes with creating new memories and strengthening the bond between partners too 💋 trying new things with your partner allow you to realise new perspectives and ways of thinking and this helps to broaden your worldview and improve your understanding of each other and the world around you.

4. spend time apart / alone

after being together my boyfriend for 3 years, i realised how crucially important this is. it may sound counter-intuitive but time spent without your partner is key to making it last 🫶🏻 not only does it allow for personal growth, it prevent co-dependency and provides and opportunity to miss each other. by spending time alone, it helps individuals to develop a sense of independence and self-awareness which can in then benefit both partners in the relationship 👩🏻‍❤️‍👨🏻 when two people spend all of their time together, becoming overly dependent on each other is inevitable. hence, this might lead to feelings of suffocation or resentment. the phrase “distance makes the heart grow founder” is so true! spending time apart can help each partner appreciate the time they have together and build anticipation for future reunions.

5. learn their love language

this is especially important when it comes to being in a long term relationship. always remember that learning your partner’s love language is an ongoing process and it can be done by patiently observing their behavior while listening to the way they communicate their feelings. to start off, observe how they express their love — do they give physical affection, buy gifts or offer words of affirmation? secondly, pay attention to their complaints! often, when someone feels unloved, they will express complaints about their partner’s behavior. listen to what your partner is saying and try to understand what they are missing. you can also try to ask them directly as this is probably one of the most direct and effective way to ask what makes them feel loved and appreciated. if being direct is not your cup of tea, try experimenting with different approaches — try out different ways of showing love and see how your partner respnds! 💘

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