20 Ways To Become a Better Boyfriend

What exactly does it mean to be a “good boyfriend”? To me, it means putting your partner’s well being at the same priority that you put your own. Reliable, dedicated, sensitive. Here are a few different ways that you can become a better boyfriend (or partner in general) to your loved one.

1. Be engaged when you're together: be present. Put your phone away, pay attention to your body language, make eye contact. Make them feel like you are fully in the moment with them and happy to be there.

2. Ask about their day: show genuine interest in their career, their friends, their family. What is stressing them out? What’s going well?

3. Actually listen when they talk: try to really comprehend what your partner is trying to communicate to you. Practice active listening.

4. Learn to empathize (even) when you disagree: you will never agree on everything. Even if you would not feel the same way if the roles were reversed, familiarize yourself with her train of thought and why it's producing the feelings it's producing.

5. Be affectionate in your day-to-day life: a kiss on the forehead, a cup of coffee in bed, hugging from behind, leave a love letter for them to find later in the day.. keep the romance going!

6. Be affectionate even when you're around others: your partner will appreciate being shown off to your friends and family,

7. Take initiative: plan the date, reach out first, make the first move, and make it a common act.

8. Never, ever tear them down: saying “it was just a joke” doesn’t make it any better. Promise yourself to never intentionally do harm to your partner. Strive to be loving and kind to your partner, even when you're upset.

9. Prioritize their well-being even when it's hard: Consider what's best for them, what will make them happy, and what will minimize discomfort or harm for them.

10. Take interest in the things they're interested in: being able to participate in these conversations allows you to get to know your partner that much better and gives them the gift of having someone to share this stuff with.

11. Prioritize their pleasure: make sure sex isn't all about you. Figure out what turns them on and learn how to pleasure them.

12. Respect their boundaries: honor when they say no. It’s not something they should feel guilty about.

13. Support their confidence: you should only build up their self esteem, never ever make negative comments about how they look. Make sure they know you think the world of them.

14. Open up about the things that are really on your mind: no one can read minds. Clearly communicate how you’re feeling and what’s bothering you. This helps your partner understand you.

15. Do something sweet for them every now and then: find ways to periodically show you care about them with big and small gestures.

16. Learn their love language: prioritize using that specific type of gesture regularly in your relationship.

17. Help them problem-solve: figure out how to best show up for your partner when they need you, and do it.

18. Be consistent: make sure your actions align with your words, follow through on your promises, and don't say things you don't mean.

19. Learn how to apologize well: focus on validating their feelings and taking responsibility for how your actions contributed to them.

20. Be willing to grow and work on yourself: focus simply on becoming a better person every single day.

Well all want to feel loved and want effort from our partner. Remember every relationship is different, but we’re all searching for a strong and fulfilling relationship.

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