BIG SISTER ADVICE 👩🏻 I would tell my younger self ✨

The recent Mercury Retrograde got me reflecting really long and hard on my life and career thus far. I wish I could turn back time and tell my younger self all about the lessons I’ve learnt: but I can’t, so this is for all of you ♥️

1. LEARN HOW TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF 🧍🏻‍♀️🕴️

This was a particularly tough one. I used to think that people would always be kind and have everyone else’s best interests in mind, but I was wrong. It’s your responsibility to stand up for yourself and be firm about your own boundaries. Be okay with people being upset when you enforce your boundaries, it’s a reflection of their deeply flawed character, not your own. If something feels wrong, speak up or leave the situation if you can: stop gaslighting yourself or question your own intuitions. You’re not being crazy or overreacting.

2. A RELATIONSHIP WON’T MAKE YOU HAPPY 💍

Stop depending on relationships for happiness. You should be so comfortable being alone so that when you start looking for relationships you stop searching from a place of lack or desperation. Being alone will also help you learn more about yourself: what you like what you don’t like and who you REALLY are outside of your people-pleasing, compromising tendencies. Being comfortable being alone is a gift.

3. IT’S OKAY TO BE SELFISH 🧘🏻‍♀️

Knowing yourself is so so so powerful: the more you know yourself the harder it is for people to push you around. I know you want to be understanding of everyone and perhaps you’ve been the mediator all your life, but I’m here to let you know it’s okay to put YOURSELF first. Not everyone is entitled to an opinion about your life!!

4. KEEP GOOD FRIENDSHIPS

You are a reflection of the 5 closest people you hang out with: choose wisely. Do they make you question yourself every time you want to make a move, or do they drive inspired action? If you find yourself on the giving end 90% of the time and rarely ever on the receiving end, have a good think aboht whether the friendship is truly adding value to your life. Do they respect you?

5. WORK ISN’T YOUR WHOLE LIFE

No man is indispensable: in 10 years from now what will matter most are the things you’ve built i.e. good friendships, life purpose, and creating an impact. I know the money’s great and you’ve always wanted that financial independence, but show up for the moments that matter. You have all the time in the world to make more money, but the smalls moments don’t ever come back.

Make the comment section a safe space to share your big sister advice 👇🏻 Could use some help navigating this quarter life crisis 😭

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