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ending my 6 year rs bc it was sadly #NotForMe šŸ–¤

ending my 6 year rs bc it was sadly #NotForMe šŸ–¤

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ending my 6 year rs bc it was sadly #NotForMe šŸ–¤ JPEG Download
ending my 6 year rs bc it was sadly #NotForMe šŸ–¤ JPEG Download

I rarely talk about this these days because this was a relationship that I ended nearly 5-6 years ago, but at the time it was a really big deal bc it was a my first real relationship that I had for >1/4 of my life. I was 21 and it felt like I should be getting ready to graduate uni, get proposed to and BTO soon, like all other uni couples. I wasnā€™t sure if I would even be able to find someone else after I left that relationship, and it felt like I was on a race for time, but when I realised these 3 things, I knew I was overstaying the relationship and I couldnā€™t go on. šŸ–¤

Just for context, we got together really young, and I suppose thatā€™s what caused him to be ā€œstuckā€ in that level of immaturity towards relationships in the way he treated me and how he took me for granted. I suppose he really thought that I would never dare to leave him even if he treated me badly. He never did anything drastically bad or abusive of course, but it was more of a gradual death of a relationship bc he stopped putting in effort. He never rlly bothered celebrating any occasions - not birthdays or valentines or anything. I think he actually forgot my birthday even tho we were tgt for so many years LOL. To some extent I believe he even stopped putting effort in conversations or to talk to me to really know me. And in the years together, we drifted so far apart that I realised he only knew the version of me in secondary school and not who Iā€™ve grown into. I think we only stayed together out of obligation, other peopleā€™s expectations, and what we thought was the right thing to do. I never felt like he truly loved me; only the idea of me that I would fulfil another tick off his bucket list to find a gf before a certain age.

Anyway here are the 3 things that solidified by decision to walk away from my 6 year relationship:

1. I no longer had any expectations šŸ–¤

I never expected anything for birthdays or Valentineā€™s Day or any other special occasions. I used to. But gradually I stopped because I realised even having the bare minimum of expectations, he was able to stoop even lower than that. LOL. I donā€™t even know how - and I honestly think Iā€™m a pretty simple girl thatā€™s quite easily satisfied. When I realised it got to the point that I had ZERO expectations for my dreaded proposal or wedding or even family and kids, I knew it was time to call it quits.

2. I knew him and could read him perfectly 100%, but he barely knows who Iā€™ve grown into šŸ–¤

It was a really strange feeling to stare into the face of someone thatā€™s so familiar to you bc youā€™ve been looking at it for 6 years, and yet have the realisation dawn upon you that he can barely understand or know you. It was like I was some unsolvable puzzle to him even tho Iā€™m rlly not that complicated. But every time we talk or try to communicate, he just never seems to get me or where Iā€™m coming from. Idk if it was just his stubbornness. But after a while, youā€™d think someone whoā€™s dated you for 6 years should at least know you more than most people around you, but that was really not the case for me. I had so so so many friends that were barely even as close who could say they knew me better than he did.

3. Being afraid of getting married/ spending the rest of your life together šŸ–¤

I think a healthy level of fear is probably normal. But itā€™s a problem when youā€™re so afraid that you cannot even bring yourself to say yes to him if he does ask. It got to the point I would dream of nightmares of getting proposed to or getting married to him but hating it for the rest of my life. I think that was probably my subconscious telling me that I needed an out and I couldnā€™t continue in it any longer.

I think my experience was probably a little bit extreme that I had to wait that long to realise that the relationship was #NotForMe when most people wouldā€™ve left earlier. Honestly, a big reason why I didnā€™t was also because I was so afraid that coming out of the relationship, I wouldnā€™t be any to find someone better who would want to commit to me. Basically I didnā€™t know my worth. (Not that Iā€™m in a committed relationship now anyway still single as a Pringle 6 years later LOL but self worth is so so important in a healthy rs w yourself and w ur partner). I hope that this might somehow help you get clarity if youā€™re in a situation similar to mine back then! šŸ’› Iā€™m all for love and commitment, and I really hate breakups LOL but I do think that sometimes there are valid reasons for people to end relationships, and it doesnā€™t always make the ones doing the breakups the bad person šŸ–¤

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