I LOST 3 Family Members in 3 years. Avoid This⚠️

Hello!

Today I’m gonna share about something personal, how I dealt with the loss of my loved ones without feeling overly depressed and I hope this can help to encourage those of you who may be going through a tough season in your life.

In the last three years,

I've experienced the loss of three loved ones: my dog, my dad, and my grandma, all within a year of each other.

Here’s WHAT I AVOID ❌ doing contrast to popular beliefs/common advices I’ve been given ⬇️

Many may say

Take your time to grieve over it,

It’s okay to NOT be okay etc…

Don’t get me wrong, while I know people meant well when they give this kinda advices but I’discovered a better way to HEAL that works for me !

IF I HAD clung to these ways of dealing with grief, really taking my time to grieve, listening to sad songs that reminds me of them, looking at old photos trying to reminisce , the truth is I might still be battling depression today.

✅Instead,

Here’s what I did:

I realized that sadness is normal BUT it’s NOT okay and it’s NOT from God. I prayed for those feelings to go away in His name, actively rejecting them whenever sad feelings come & haunt me.

[Missing someone and feeling sorrowful is not from God, but Missing someone with a SMILE on your face is.]

Don't get me wrong; it's completely okay to look at photos and reminisce, but TIMING is crucial here.

It's not something we should do when the incident is still fresh and IF it makes us sad.

In my case, I saved all my loved ones pictures and videos in a folder and refrained from looking at them until I was emotionally prepared.

Some might find this approach heartless, as if I don't care, but it's essential not to fall into this kinda mindset that doesn’t help me.

The BEST thing I can do for myself is to engage in activities that brings me peace and healing ,

NOT dwelling in memories that I know will make me sad.

For instance, I picked up learning the guitar and found peace in singing hymns and worship songs.

This transition greatly helped in my healing process.

Fast forward to today, I can finally look at their photos/videos and smile compared to how I’would have felt if I insist on doing the same things back then.

⭐️Here’s something important I’ve learnt⭐️

Our thoughts are NOT our own. I repeat again, our thoughts are not ours. Sadly but true.

If they can be easily controlled by us , there wouldn’t be people who’s battling negativity or in more serious cases mental health problems who are unable to help themselves.

There are dark forces( we can’t see but exist) in this world that wants to haunt our minds urging us to look at sad photos, reminisce, and got us trapped in this cycle of sorrows thinking that it’s okay but it’s NOT.

BUT the GOOD NEWS is we can choose to stand in FAITH, FIGHT them boldly and REJECT them.

I can’t do it in my own might back then which is why I prayed and ask God for help 🙏🏻✨

Faith-based Books that has helped me ⬇️

Healing Promises by Joseph Prince

Healing Scriptures - powerful promises for divine health by Joseph Prince ( avail as book and also free on YouTube to listen )

If you or you know of someone who’s grieving, no harm sending these healing resources to them.

Hope the above sharing will help to heal faster in one way or another!

Sending ❤️ and✨your way !

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