This LOVE language Cheatsheet Saves Our R/S !

Hello!

While I understand that conflicts are unavoidable sometimes , but how we handle them post conflicts are super important to help us feel loved despite potential scarring episodes⚠️

The way we try to fix things can be different for each person, and that can either make things better or worse.

Some of us like to take a break before making up,

while others want to talk right away and reason things out.

I’ve put together this “cheatsheet” hoping that it will help to understand your partner's love language during conflict and how they like to solve problems can make your arguments less painful.

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If your partner’s love language is

WORDS OF AFFIRMATION:

👂🏼Listen Attentively:

During/After a conflict, actively listen to your partner's concerns. Make eye contact, nod, and use verbal cues to show you're paying attention.

💬Use Encouraging Words: Offer words of encouragement and appreciation, especially during / after tough moments. “ I appreciate you bringing up this tough topic...”

♥️Express Love Verbally: I know it’s hard but try to assure your partner that you love them, even when discussing disagreements cuz it means a lot to people whose love language is words

🟢Validate Feelings: Acknowledge their emotions by saying, "I understand how you feel," which helps them feel heard and valued.

💯Reassure Commitment: Remind your partner that you're committed to the relationship. Try saying,

"We'll work through this because I'm committed to us."

If one of you need time to cool down , try this instead of walking away

⭐️ “I need a little time to gather my thoughts and calm down. Can we agree to arrange for a better time to discuss this issue?"

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If your loved one’s love language is

QUALITY TIME:

💯Give Undivided Attention: Set aside dedicated time to discuss the conflict without distractions. ⚠️Put away phones or TVs and focus solely on your partner.

🗣️👂🏼Talk and Listen: Engage in open conversations, giving them your full attention. Encourage them to express their thoughts.

📝Plan Future Time Together: Mention your plans for quality time as a way of showing that you value the relationship and want to improve on it.

🥰Show Interest: Ask about their thoughts and feelings to convey your genuine interest in understanding their perspective.

🤗Reassure Dedication: Express your commitment to spending quality time together

If one of you need time to cool down , try this

⭐️ “I understand that you need some space right now. When you're ready to talk, I’ll make time so that we can spend some quality time talking over it"

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If your loved one’s love language is

ACTS OF SERVICE:

💪🏻Help Out: Offer to help with tasks related to the conflict, like finding solutions or taking on responsibilities to ease their burden.

🛠️Fix Issues: Take action to resolve the problem or work together to find solutions, showing that you're committed to making things better.

🥰Show You Care: Perform “actions” that demonstrate your love and commitment

🫶🏻Consider Their Needs: Ask how you can be of service during/ post conflict and respond accordingly.

💯Reiterate Love: Reassure your love and willingness to support them through your actions, making it clear that you care deeply.

If one of you need time to cool down , try this

⭐️ "I'll give you some space to cool down. When you're ready, let me know. Meanwhile if there's anything I can

do to help."

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If your loved one’s love language is

PHYSICAL TOUCH:

🤗Offer Comforting Hugs: Provide physical comfort through hugs or a reassuring touch during/after the conversation when you’re ready.

🫶🏻 Hold Hands: Hold their hand as a sign of support and connection post conflict.

🙌🏻Use Touch to Connect: Try physical contact, even just a touch on the shoulder, to convey your love and support.

👫 Be Physically Close: Sit or stand close to them post conflict, creating a sense of connection, showing that you're there for them.

If one of you need time to cool down , try this

⭐️“I understand you need some space. When you're ready, I'll be here”( with a comforting hug)

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If your loved one’s love language is

RECEIVING GIFTS:

💝Thoughtful Gestures: Give small, thoughtful gifts that can convey your love and appreciation, post conflicts.

💡Consider Their Preferences: Choose gifts that align with their latest interests, showing that you care enough to keep yourself updated about their likes and dislikes.

If one of you need time to cool down , try this

⭐️“I understand you need some space. When you're ready, I’ve prepared a surprise for you!

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Disclaimer : I’m not a professional relationship/ marriage consultant and the above sharing is purely based on personal experiences and how it has helped us :)

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If I were you, I’ll probably share this post link 🔗with my partner now hoping that both of us can have some takeaways in managing conflicts better the next round 😉

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