Bonding with your baby

Although I love my baby with everything in me I struggled to build that bond and let me tell you something I’ve learned from being a first time mom… don’t force things. When I found out I was pregnant I just couldn’t feel “happy”, I didn’t feel love instantly. I was so confused and many thoughts went through my head. I felt like something was wrong with me and I’d googled this feeling to see if I was the only one. I felt so bad for not having positive feelings and thoughts for my baby. Eventually it came around and I didn’t have to force it.

When he was born I was happy, I couldn’t stop holding him, I just loved him but I couldn’t feel that connection. I dissociated for a good amount of time. I don’t even remember when I started to feel the connection it just came around one day. You don’t have to feel bad. You’re not the only one and this is completely normal. Don’t force it. It’ll come around one day and you won’t even notice.

Give yourself grace!

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