Introverts tend to be misunderstood as quiet/shy

Have you ever encounter people ask

“Why are you so quiet?”

Imagine if I were to reply: “why can’t you stop talking?” lol how about people are actually selective to choose who they want to speak with?

They will jump to conclusions and assume you are “introvert”

Many would associate “shy” or “quiet” being as “introvert”

Some of other frequent misconceptions are

1. Introverts can’t be leaders

2. Introverts are antisocial

3. Introverts need to change to fit in

4. Introverts are boring

I would like to use this post to clear up any common misconceptions of introverts haha

The definition of introvert is people who gain energy from alone time, they recharge their energy by spending time alone or with a small group of close friends, as opposed to large social gathering which may drain their energy.

So then extroverts are opposite of introverts, they gain energy from hanging around with people etc

personality largely depends on that individual, I have met introverts who are very outspoken, charismatic and can lead a team, if you guys know, most of the great leaders or CEO or famous scientist are actually introverts! (Elon musk I think his MBTI is INTJ, Einstein is INTP?)

If u see his interview, u realised he needs to think before he speaks etc

Eg: I am introvert but during my time as FA, I had to do public speaking, training and meet clients back to back

Misconception that only extroverts make good leaders because of their outgoing nature however introverts can be effective leaders often excelling in thoughtful decision making, empathy and listening skills

I have also met extroverts’ personality that is more towards the quiet type. They just enjoy being around people even though they may not be that outspoken.

It does seem like most of the extroverts have outgoing, super outspoken personality and many introverts does seem to be more quiet esp in large social setting etc

I have been both an extrovert and introvert through out my life, during my younger days, I cannot stand the idea of staying at home, I am constantly out with friends and super on the go!

I think it is only in 2019, I became introvert, I started to appreciate alone time!

I remember back then as an extrovert, (my own personal experience ya), I wasn’t that introspective, I wasn’t a very good listener (I am not sure is there any correlation ya)

But I do realised when I became introvert, I am introspective and became a great listener 🫣 not sure got link or not but this was my own observation

Then I started to notice my introvert and extrovert friends to see if there is any same pattern hahaha or even when I was using dating app..

Most of the introverts I have encountered does seem to be great listener (not all ofcoz but the probability is higher) I do only encounter a few extroverts are great listeners!

So maybe if u also encounter something similar to me let me know!!

What does it mean to be introvert?

1. Introvert is not quiet, they only open up with people they genuinely trust and comfortable with. You will be surprise how deep they can go with conversations with the right people

2. Introvert may only seem quiet in large group setting because they value meaningful one to one conversations over small talk

3. Introvert tend to be more thoughtful and reflective, often needing time to process their thoughts before expressing themselves in social settings

4. Introverts can feel overstimulated in highly social or noisy environment which can lead them to seek out quiet spaces to recharge

5. Introverts prefer activities like reading, writing or hobbies that allow for focused, individual work rather than constant social interaction

That being said, some of the extrovert I know share some similar traits of the above as well, so perhaps that’s what they called ambivert? There is a balance of both introvert and extrovert?

Back then I remember I was working in a corporate setting, the idea of having to constantly interact with colleagues (frequency not very similar) was a very painful experience esp during lunch break, it doesn’t feel like lunch break, it feels like I have to listen to them speak while nodding my head but my heart wasn’t there lol.. esp the topics they talk about in my perspective wasn’t interesting, sometimes they would laugh but I don’t find it funny then I had to smile at least LOL 🥲 but when I meet colleagues who share similar frequency, I feel very comfortable with them, we chat only when there are things to talk about, we don’t force conversation. Everything flows smoothly.

There are times after work when going home, I will faster put my earpiece on so that I don’t have to entertain anyone 🫢 or if I see someone I know on train, I will just look at my phone 🫠 I just don’t have energy to talk to anyone before/after work lol.

My dear introverts, next time if people “shame” you for being quiet, just know that you are in the wrong place. 🫶🏻 because when you are with the right people, naturally you will chat more ;)

Being an introvert doesn’t mean someone is shy or antisocial. It’s more about how they manage their energy and find comfort in the world around them. Many introverts can enjoy social situations but might need more downtime afterward.

In this society, it seems like extroverts are preferred, somehow many would shame introverts. Hence there is often pressure on introverts to be more outgoing or extroverted to succeed, but both personality types have their own strength. Introverts thrive in environments that respect their need for quiet and focus, and they bring unique perspectives and talents to the table.

Esp in corporate world, it seems like “visibility” is super important more than your actual performance.

Esp during meeting it seems like whoever can speak asap “wins” 😓 how about some people need to process before speaking uh?

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