I’m turning 21 and these are what i’ve learnt.

i still find it crazy that i’m turning 21 rlly soon 🥲 and i’ve been reflecting on the experiences i’ve gone through so far that have shaped into the person i am today 🤍 so i just wanted to share on what i’ve learnt so far! ✍🏼

𝟏. 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐨 𝐦𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 💭

i’m one who used to overthink a lot about almost anything and everything. but it came to a point where i realised that caring too much about what others feel or think is so exhausting. life is too short to dwell on what doesn’t matter in the long run 😮‍💨

𝟐. 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐝𝐰𝐞𝐥𝐥 𝐨𝐧 𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐬 — 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐨𝐧 🫂

mistakes happen. i’ve made mistakes and being an overthinker, i’ll keep replaying it in my head and sometimes beating myself up for it 😵‍💫 but what’s the point? it doesn’t change what has been done. so jst acknowledge and learn from your mistakes and keep moving forward! 🚶🏻‍♂️

𝟑. 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 & 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡 👀

your happiness shouldn’t depend on others. learn to give yourself what you need and recognise when it’s time to walk away from relationships that doesn’t add value to your life

𝟒. 𝐥𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐠𝐨 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐬 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐟𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 ❤️‍🩹

falling in love is easy, but letting go requires a different kind of courage. it requires us to make tough decisions and needs us to realise when a relationship is no longer healthy or meeting your needs. this realisation rlly isn’t easy, especially when you’ve invested so much time and energy into the relationship. and there’s also the fear of being alone. but choosing to end things or accepted that it has ended needs lots of courage and self-awareness.

𝟓. 𝐢𝐭’𝐬 𝐨𝐤𝐚𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐛𝐞 𝐨𝐤𝐚𝐲 😮‍💨

sometimes things just don’t work out for a reason. you may not see it right away but what you deemed as the “worst things” that can happen will probably be the best things that can happen to you! 🫵🏼

𝟔. 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐤𝐬 & 𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 👊🏼👊🏼

embrace risks thoughtfully and confront your fears. they often lead to growth and new opportunities 🌱

𝟕. 𝐟𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐣𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐲

each failure teaches us what to improve and how to be stronger 💪🏼

𝟖. 𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐝 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐭𝐨 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬 ❌

it’s easy for us to envy other’s achievements. but all these comparison does is make me feel like i’m not good enough or not measuring up to my peers. comparison doesn’t do any good. so instead, i’ve learnt to appreciate the small things in life — the small achievements i’ve achieved. and to remind myself that there will always be someone better out there, and that’s okay. chasing perfection through comparison will jst be a never-ending cycle 🥹

𝟗. 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐠𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐭𝐲 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐮𝐧𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐝𝐮𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 😬

rest and downtime are essential. don’t let guilt overshadow the need for self-care and relaxation

𝟏𝟎. 𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 🫶🏼

as i grow older, i realised how much my friends and i have diverged into different paths. meet ups have also became harder because of the commitments we hv. people around me are getting older as well. life is unpredictable so do spend some time with loved ones. don’t be too fixated on work/studies! (as impt as this may be).

these are essentially the main things that i’ve learnt. and honestly there’s still so much more to learn and i’m still trying to be better! 🥸

if you’ve resonated to any of these points, LMK!! feel free to share what you’ve learnt so far as well 🫶🏼

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