Happily Married - A journey as a wifey 💋🕶

Hello 🦋,

I was blessed to have married the man I prayed for—a man who truly cherishes me. After being cheated on twice in previous relationships, I prayed hard to find someone who would value me deeply. Fast forward a year, and I met my husband. Our connection blossomed from a simple “hi” on Facebook to meeting his family and bonding over camping trips, especially since my mother-in-law is an avid camper. I never thought I’d get married this soon, especially considering our age gap (he’s four years younger than me). I was willing to wait, but life had other plans!

In Feb 2024, we got engaged, and by May 2024, we tied the knot. I firmly believe in rezeki—the blessings that come our way when we trust the process.

Being married is worlds apart from being single. My perspective has completely shifted. I used to be fiercely independent, but now I depend on my husband as my partner in life. My priorities have moved from focusing solely on myself to nurturing our household and relationship.

Here are some tips for newlyweds that have worked for us:

1. Be Transparent – Be open and honest with your partner. Never hide your flaws, and don’t lie. When you’re truthful, your partner will accept and love the real you.

2. Financial Harmony – Be flexible with money matters. Discuss salaries, needs, and expectations about spending. I believe that as long as a wife supports her husband wholeheartedly, the path forward becomes smoother, and the couple will always feel content.

3. Mutual Respect – Marriage is a partnership. The way you both approach your marriage will shape it. You’ll discover challenges and benefits along the way, but respect is key to navigating them.

4. Express Gratitude – Always say “thank you” when your partner helps out. It’s a simple gesture that boosts their mood and fosters positivity.

5. Compliment & Encourage – Regularly compliment and encourage your partner. It keeps the spark alive and strengthens your bond.

6. Avoid Long Silences – Never stay mad or give each other the silent treatment for more than three days. Time is precious, and you don’t want to waste it on unresolved conflicts.

7. Create a Cozy Home – For those who are full-time housewives like me, it’s essential to make your home as comfortable and clean as possible. A tidy, lively home can work wonders for the atmosphere. If you’re working, then time management is your best friend!

8. Tone Matters – When addressing sensitive topics, be mindful of your tone. Personally, I have a soft voice, but when I raise it, my husband sometimes feels hurt. I’ve learned to adjust my tone depending on the conversation.

9. Shared Responsibility – There’s no rule that says the wife has to do everything. Gently remind your husband that even as a housewife, managing a home requires support. Whenever I ask for help, my husband eventually assists.

10. For Muslim Couples – Prayer (solat) is the pillar of faith. I’m grateful that my husband always reminds me to keep up with my five daily prayers.

Ultimately, for a happy marriage, both partners need to understand each other’s roles, desires, and needs. If a conflict arises, sit down, talk it out, and find a solution together. And above all, start with happiness and positivity—it sets the tone for everything else.

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