Should You Leave Him? 😞

FEARS THAT COME WITH THINKING OF LEAVING:

❤️‍🩹Many times I’ve seen some friends struggle with breaking up with a boyfriend that has treated them wrongly and showed multiple times that they aren’t the one for them. Still she stays because I think she’s scared of change. She’s scared of having to deal with everything that comes as a result of a breakup. She’d have to pack her bags and move out, she’d have to do a sort of embarrassing walk back home that everyone will see and in her head judge her for a failed relationship. When in reality no one cares.. in a good way. Those who love her just want her to be happy.

❤️‍🩹HOW TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE YOU JUST DONT WANT TO BE WITH ANYMORE BUT ITS STILL SO HARD TO WALK AWAY:

⛓️‍💥Remind yourself you only know of this one life you get and you might as well spend it with someone that you want to be around. If someone just isn’t the one it might be time to let them go so you can make room for someone who is meant to be there. You have to move with faith in these steps, move like you know God will provide the right one even if the right one is no where to be found yet. You just gotta let go first in order to let the right one come. I remember leaving one guy I dated because I met another guy in the dessert that I connected with talking to so well. Just the eye contact was on point. I told myself I needed someone more up to par on a connection level like that even though I knew I couldn’t date dessert man he lived all the way in the dessert. Still I had to break it off with mr suburbs because I’m holding out for something really special. I think when you have high standards and hold yourself accountable to not allowing those who don’t fit them get too comfortable in your life from the beginning of the dating stages then it becomes easier for you to find someone good for you.

⛓️‍💥 think about how it’s really just a series of moments you need to get through in order to make it to the other side of happiness. The other side of a better life essentially. Because that is why we break up with people because we believe life would be better without them. It’s become more harmful than helpful or they just aren’t the one or a myriad of other reasons to break up with someone. But it just takes a series of moments to get you through the breakup process and then on the other side of it you’ll be free. That’s what I always reminded myself when I was in a relationship I didn’t wanna be in anymore. It gets easier.

⛓️‍💥 creating a plan will help you get through this process too. It will become actionable to you and you’ll be more likely to achieve it if you write down steps to follow on how to do it from start to finish. From the packing of bags to the healing of your heart.

⛓️‍💥 I think when it comes to choosing a marriage partner I always think to myself will this person make my life easier or harder? And if the answer is harder I choose to not get deep into the relationship and cut it off as soon as I can.

❤️‍🩹 EMOTIONAL TIES

⛓️‍💥 I get it. Sometimes you’re just too emotionally attached to them that it’s hard to break up with them. There can actually be so many reasons why it’s hard to leave someone. I do get it. You still gotta listen to these tips if you want to get out. I remember staying in relationships I knew weren’t good for me because I was comfortable or just didn’t want to go through with any confrontation. It’s not a good enough reason I owe it to myself to make the decision to break things off if I know it’s not right for me. It’s an adult decision that you should figure out and decide like your life depends on it cuz not to sound dramatic but it does. It’s not life or death but it is quality of life at stake.

⛓️‍💥 you’re already running out of time. Come on be courageous.

❤️‍🩹 HOW TO DECIDE WETHER OR NOT TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE OR NOT:

🎐 only you really know deep down wether or not you see a good future with them or not. I think it’s all a feeling. Like if you’re just seriously not happy anymore and it’s all because of your relationship I think that’s a good indicator that you should break up. But first make sure it’s not something else that’s making you unhappy. Sometimes I know some people have something good and self sabotage, I dont want you to mistake really needing to break up vs needing to give grace to a partner who’s going through a rough patch and has earned grace due to how amazing they were before.

🎐Try working things out first with healthy communication.

✨ avoid accusation words like “you do this and that” and try “I feel this way because of how you…”

✨ let your partner know that you hear them and understand them. Ask for clarification is anything is unclear so you truly understand where they’re coming from.

✨ explain what they’re doing to make you unhappy with the relationship and see if there’s a reasonable way to fix it. If not be mature about it and realize it’s either time to suck it up and deal with how they make you feel or leave them and deal with the feelings that come with doing that. Either way leaving someone you once felt intense feelings for is a very difficult thing to navigate. You’ll need a support system whether that’s a family member or friend to help you through this time. Try not to isolate.

❤️‍🩹 if you’ve tried everything and it’s still not working, you know what to do sis.

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