I am having a hair crisis pls help 🙏

when I was little my hair was super healthy and long but as i grew up i didn’t know shit about keeping it… well long and healthy. I would do so much to it (straighten, dye three times, cut it + trim, wear wigs, wear protective styles like braids only braids) it is very damaged now, my hair texture used to be coily & curly but now it’s loose & curly. My hair porosity is high, i’ve tried so many different ways to grow it out (oil: mielle, doo gro, amla, camille rose; hair grease: blue magic & chebe hair grease; tried to keep a wash hair routine but it never would work for me, i was barely consistent and never knew what products helped my hair. My hair has always been at shoulder length even when i would cut tf out of it (my hair is kinda like a wolf cut look cus that was the first time i decided to “start over” since i dyed my hair again back in 2021 i think? then straightened it after which was my big mistake bc the ends of my hair was not reverting back to curly) ever since i did that wolf cut my hair has been growing weirdly? The back of my hair was longer than the front which is kinda the point of the wolf cut look lol but i didn’t like it anymore so I wanted my hair to grow back evenly again but it never happened so i would always trim my hair to a wolf cut which is fine i guess… can’t really change that. I don’t hate the way my hair looks i jus don’t like how short it’s been for the past few years.

The pic where my hair is combed out is a recent pic of what my hair looks like: it looks dry honestly but i promise i applied oil before i took that picture lol i honestly don’t know what’s going on with my hair now or what state it’s at but I am starting to leave it tf alone😭 meaning taking a break on wearing wigs and protective styles bc those would strip my hair and my hair sheds whenever i put them in braids i’ve always thought i was going to be bald every time bc when I would comb out my hair it would shed hella so😭 and the pic where my hair looks like when it is out if braids you can tell that that is not normal and my hair looks damaged asl and I don’t like it at all. Yes my hair is basically soft now which I used to like bc before it would be so difficult to untangle and i was a tender-headed bitch as a kid lol but now I think that doesn’t help my hair whatsoever

Pls if anyone can give me tips or advice on growing high porosity damaged hair I would really appreciate it, I have no idea what I am doing to achieve that healthy and long hair look anymore☹️