TEN Things to Try Differently for Your Wedding 💐🤍

The intention was never to stand out and do something completely different - it was to do what WE wanted and which would make us happy 🫢

So our top tip here is: Do what makes you happy & leave you with as minimal regrets as possible! 💡 it’s REALLY difficult to get your perfect wedding esp when other stakeholders come into play - so we can only try out best 🥲

So here are ten things we did differently for our wedding(s)!!

1️⃣ 𝓣𝔀𝓸 𝓦𝓮𝓭𝓭𝓲𝓷𝓰𝓼

I think I’ve been talking about this plenty already 😹 TLDR for those new to our posts is that we held separate weddings for our relatives and friends, mainly bc of different expectations.

You can read more about how we pulled it off here!

2️⃣ 𝓝𝓸 𝓐𝓾𝓼𝓹𝓲𝓬𝓲𝓸𝓾𝓼 𝓓𝓪𝓽𝓮

This came about bc 👦🏻 didn’t understand the “science” behind it, as to how a date would guarantee us happiness 😹 I was initially uncomfortable with it (kiasu/kiasi things), but it took me a while to realise that (1) 👦🏻 was right, and that (2) I’d rather not risk discontentment between us bc of a disagreement over this! Choosing my battles 🫣

3️⃣ 𝓝𝓸 𝓖𝓪𝓽𝓮𝓬𝓻𝓪𝓼𝓱𝓲𝓷𝓰

Well, 👦🏻 didn’t want to get tekan (though I’m sure he wouldn’t have minded if I really pushed through), and I didn’t want to wake up early and tire myself out 😹 thank goodness our parents were chill with it!

4️⃣ 𝓝𝓸 𝓗𝓸𝓽𝓮𝓵 𝓑𝓪𝓵𝓵𝓻𝓸𝓸𝓶

This is one of my favourites tbh! No hate against hotel ballrooms, I’m just glad that I got to pick a dreamy venue that suit the aesthetics I wanted, and another restaurant that had amazing food 😋 I think it’s a matter of priorities and what you want to get out of your wedding, rather than thinking you’re limited to conventional wedding arrangements. Be adventurous and think about what you want!

5️⃣ 𝓝𝓸 𝓢𝓲 𝓓𝓲𝓪𝓷 𝓙𝓲𝓷

I didn’t feel a need to have bc I’m not a fan of gold, but my mum and his mum were quite insistent on giving SOMETHING at least. So we agreed on 四点砖 (diamonds) instead of gold! At least it would be something I could wear more often rather than to leave it only for emergency 😗

6️⃣ 𝓝𝓸 𝓑𝓻𝓲𝓭𝓪𝓵 𝓟𝓪𝓻𝓽𝔂

I just wanted my friends to have fun, and didn’t want to trouble them to be busy on our big day. I wanted them to also relish in the feeling of knowing how important they are like every other guest, so ofc all the more I wouldn’t put my besties through more trouble as a bridal party!

Do I regret? Honestly, no. I felt prouder that we involved them very minimally (just to do registration before they fully sat in as a guest for everything else) and that they could enjoy, bc there’s even more so reason for my closest friends to enjoy it!

7️⃣ 𝓓𝓲𝓰𝓲𝓽𝓪𝓵 𝓐𝓷𝓰𝓹𝓪𝓸𝓼

We felt it was a hassle to withdraw money and find an angpao + for even the married couple we would have to count the money & go through the hassle of depositing it 😮‍💨

ALSO, it’s more environmentally friendly!! That was a HUGE bonus for us 🌿

We provided a PayNow QR code but also gave the option to provide a physical angpao to our friends if they preferred!

8️⃣ 𝓦𝓮𝓭𝓭𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓛𝓮𝓽𝓽𝓮𝓻𝓼

For our friends-only wedding, we wanted to be personable and really highlight to everyone that they ARE important and significant to us in their own way! There are many kinds of wedding favours you can give, but I felt nothing beats an invaluable recognition :’)

PS I know that there’re a few out there who do zines & photo cards / booklets, omg I actually considered but decided against it bc Idt my guests would wanna keep it and I wouldn’t want our faces in the bin / recycle bin 🫣😹

9️⃣ 𝓝𝓸 𝓒𝓱𝓪𝓷𝓰𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓓𝓻𝓮𝓼𝓼𝓮𝓼

We did consider changing outfits for the family-only wedding bc our mums were insistent, but then considering the fact that the package with our venue didn’t come with a hotel room, we didn’t want to pay $500+ for a hotel room just so we could get changed, and another few hundreds for a dress!

Let me just say when you take THAT out of the equation, you can enjoy your food a lot more 😮‍💨 worried that there’s no entertainment? Get your emcee to play bingo or engage the guests somehow!

🔟 𝓣𝔀𝓸 𝓟𝓦𝓢 & 𝓗𝓸𝓷𝓮𝔂𝓶𝓸𝓸𝓷

These weren’t planned tbh!

For PWS: I did lowkey hope to do two when we nailed down the overseas wedding package (unplanned) bc I had always wanted to do my shoot in NTU! I’m glad that we were able to find a good and affordable photographer and fit it into our schedule so that we could squeeze in a local PWS on top of our overseas PWS ☺️

For honeymoon: This decision was more circumstantial than intentional - after our wedding in Dec, we had wanted to go to Japan / Europe. Neither was the best arrangement for us bc I was not good with the cold (I had a mad fever the last time I went to Japan in Dec) and Europe was best explored around May/June!

We still wanted a getaway, so we decided to still take a short trip at Vietnam as a minimoon, and properly enjoy a honeymoon in Europe during May. We got to have the best of both worlds for everything 🥰

📌 𝓔𝓷𝓭𝓷𝓸𝓽𝓮

I’m sure many other brides out there tried something different & special for their own wedding! We each have our own preferences and quirks and I don’t think there’s a need to always have a wedding in only one way :-)

Remember that your wedding, your marriage, is YOUR big day. We can’t please everyone but don’t let yourself be the most compromised!

📌 𝓞𝓽𝓱𝓮𝓻 𝓦𝓮𝓭𝓭𝓲𝓷𝓰-𝓡𝓮𝓵𝓪𝓽𝓮𝓭 𝓒𝓸𝓷𝓽𝓮𝓷𝓽

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