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I handled a breakup in the most UNHEALTHY way 🚩

I handled a breakup in the most UNHEALTHY way 🚩

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Around a year ago, I broke up with my ex of 3 years. Being my companion since J1, I was suddenly plunged into loneliness and lost 😵 (the breakup was for the best, though)

I coped in the most UNHEALTHY way, and these are what I did before I realised my mistakes

🚩 downloaded many dating apps ❤️‍🩹

- I downloaded Okc and Bumble "just to swipe," but I ended up talking to so many people at once that I couldn't even remember who was who. 🤧

- As someone who was used to being emotionally invested in just 1 person, this was new to me but not in a good way. I spent a lot of time trying to keep up with conversations that I did not have time to myself to reflect and heal. 🫠

- I also encountered a lot of guys who just want to get nasty 🤢

🚩 had multiple talking stages at once

- similar to first point but..

- some guys actually got invested, and they were actually interested in pursuing me 😔 but since my energy was split between different people, I couldn't and didn't want to commit, which ended up hurting some people ☹️

🚩 used guys for validation

- After the break up, my confidence and self esteem was an all-time low (also because of the reason I broke up, but that's a story for another day) 😵

- getting 99+ likes on okc/Bumble a day felt exhilarating for me and I thought it was a big testament to my looks🙃 but it became an addiction to keep checking the likes I've garnered and I was really relying on it for my self confidence 🫣

🚩 did not prioritise my studies, friends, and health

- From the points above, all my energy legit went to talking to new people and meeting them for dates, etc

- I did not seek comfort from my friends like I should've, and I disregarded their advice about not using dating apps and being careful of who I met up with 😮‍💨

- I also started cramming my work at the last minute instead of being consistent since I keep feeling short of time. ⏰️ This made my performance and hours of sleep SUFFER 📉📉

🚩 did not reflect and come to terms with my feelings at all

- As mentioned, I did not come to terms with my feelings, and I had no idea what I needed to heal healthily 😬

- I was heartbroken, but I tried to cover it up with the "hot girl summer"/"girlboss" kinda phase 🤡

- this was REALLY unhealthy as I would cry at night while feeling lonely, but the next day I pretended everything was fine again, 🙂 bottling up emotions is a no-no 😔

🚩 meet new guys to make up for the empty feeling

- I had a few situationships who i met up consistently, which would be okay IF I didn't catch feelings... BUT I DID 🤕

- As I missed the wholesome and secure feeling of being in a long-term relationship, I started getting invested and cared about them more than I should've even though I suspected they were just using me 🫡

- I would even travel 1h+ to meet them as I WASNT prioritising myself at all (my time, effort, etc) 🏃‍♀️

- I did not know at that time that giving all my energy to people who did not reciprocate just DRAINED me and contributed to that empty feeling 😖 because they don't mind hurting me from their lack of efforts as well 😮‍💨💔

sooo it actually took me 2 months to come to my senses but the damage was already done 😬 and I was even more emotionally vulnerable than before 😢 it took my current bf awhile to heal me but I'm all good now! 🥰💕

I learnt many lessons from this, albeit the hard way, but at least now I can give advice to any of my friends going through a hard time after a break up!

if you're going through a break up/ just want someone to talk to, my dms are always open, and I would love to talk to you 💓

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