😰What scared me about having a daughter👩‍👧🌷

There are so many reasons that make having a daughter an amazing thing. a lot of people say they don't want a daughter and when I say people I mean women because they don't want to tackle the hassle of sassiness. I also hear a lot of taking out time to do their hair I hear that mostly from African-American women.

Honestly I love doing my daughter's hair, (I am also a licensed cosmetologist too so the love for hair is always there) I never had a mother to do my own hair so it brings me joy that she doesn't have to feel like I did. It brings me joy knowing that I can do her hair and we can enjoy it even though sometimes she doesn't like getting her hair done lol. I know one day she's going to appreciate it so much because she might have a friend who doesn't have a mom that had to go through what I went through.

I just never want her to experience things that I didn't get to experience because I didn't have a mom. Another thing that I love the most about having a daughter is that I can teach her how not to make a mistake that I made especially when it comes to dating (when she gets that age) it was a lot of things that I ran to for love and to fulfill love in boys sometimes that my dad didn't give and some of what I was missing from my mom.

I always thought, "well I have to have a boyfriend because everyone's doing it ..." and then it was "I just have to have a boyfriend..." (I also had a false fairytale love and it never happened 😂) unconsciously felt the way thinking they might love me better than the love my dad is giving me and give me love that I never received from my mom. I realize that as I grew older that I was just trying to fill a void. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Being a follower of Christ, I realize that it's no such thing as filling a void through humans. Only God can fill the void of the loss of pain the heartache, only he can do that if you allow him and I have allowed God to do that for me. I no longer depend on humans to satisfy me when I'm sad, mad, angry hurt or feeling down I just go straight to God. because I realize that I feel more fulfilled and more love going to a guy and that's something that I also am going to teach my daughter.

P.S. (and no I'm not against reacting out to trusted individuals family friends or therapy for help and guidance I'm all for "healthy" approaches in relationships I'm more referring to relationships built off hurt pain trauma or trying to fill voids)

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What's your favorite part about having a daughter as a mom?

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