IS YOUR PARTNER AN OVER THINKER? READ THIS!

Hi girlies! I’m back again with another post and this time around, I’ll be sharing how to deal with an overthinking partner! No matter if you’re the girl or guy in the relationship, this tips will be useful once you find out that your partner is an overthinker! Without further ado, let’s get into it!

#1 Check in with your partner regularly (this will allow them to express themselves)

Once a week or so, ask your partner if everything is going alright in a super calm and loving way. Because personally, I am the overthinker in my relationship and trust me just the thought and effort of my partner checking up on me will make me feel better! Also, even if they say everything’s fine and they move on, keep doing it! Make sure you’re consistent because these little check-ins are important when it comes to an open and communicative environment, which is important for an overthinker!

#2 Communicate honestly (never lie to them)

If they catch you in a single lie, they’ll overthink everything you say! Trust me on that! Because if you asked me based on my experience, once my ex boyfriend lied to me, the fear and anxiety from it never left. Because an overthinking partner is usually very observant, and if they spot some untruth, they’re never going to stop being suspicious of you in the future! So never lie to your overthinking partner, they will think about it all the time and you will only make it worse! This doesn’t mean you can’t say be honest about how you feel, but just make sure to not lie and as long as you’re honest, they will definitely respect it!

#3 Reassure & give them compliments (this will make them feel valued)

As an overthinker myself, reassurance and compliment actually helps to give me a peace of mind. Sometimes I just need someone to tell me everything’s gonna be okay and make me feel valued in the relationship! So even if your overthinking partner already knows you love them, say it anyway! If you get into a disagreement, remind them that you don’t hate them. If they’re worried about something at work or school, show them empathy and remind them they got this!

#4 Respect their concerns (acknowledge their worries)

If the overthinker in your life is worried about something, recognize that it’s all a part of their process! Make sure that you help to acknowledge that it’s reasonable for them to be concerned about something while reminding them that there’s a solution to their problem somewhere! Because for me, there’s nothing better than my boyfriend understanding my concerns on certain things. This way, I feel seen and heard. For example, if I’m concerned I’m going to lose my job because I lost a major campaign deal, my partner will say, “I totally understand why you’re worried. I get it. I wouldn’t assume the worst yet, though. Besides, you can always get a new campaign!” It's just always good to talk through someone's fears when they're overthinking!

#5 Seek professional help (go for therapy or counselling)

One of the way that you can also help your partner to overcome or if overthinking becomes a persistent issue impacting their well being, is by encouraging them to seek professional help. For example, encourage them to go for therapy or counselling and talk to someone expert. For example, because I am the overthinking partner in my relationship for the last 2 years I actually went for counseling, and let me tell you something! It was a life changing experience. It feels so good to be able to share anything and any problems that I was facing with my therapist. So I would definitely suggest to seek professional help as well!

That’s all from me today ladies! Let me know whether the post above helps or not!

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